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Baller Mail: “My Ex Girlfriend and I Took A Break To Get Ourselves Together But I Can’t Figure Out Where Our Relationship Stands With Her. What Should I Do?”

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For today’s Baller Mail, our reader sent:

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“My lady made a decision a few months ago that we needed a break to get ourselves together, we have been together two years. I’ll admit I’ve had a little boy mentality and couldn’t see past it. I didn’t realize what she needed from me and what every woman would require from their man, which is stability and security. I failed to provide that and kept pushing off getting myself into a better position financially, that would create the stability and security she needs, which meant saving the money I make and getting off of the road (OTR driver for transport company) and following my passions, dreams and just progressing as a whole.

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Although we are taking a break we somehow still manage to talk to each other every day, or most days. She told me that she isn’t focused on being with anyone right now, and entertaining someone isn’t her concern. The thing that’s changed is that she doesn’t say much when I express my feelings for her, or how everything that I am working towards is for us.

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I love this woman and I damn near worship the ground she walks on. I’ll do anything for her, I want to do more for her and I think she knows this, I just believe she may be fed up with my empty promises.

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I know actions speak louder than words, is it a possibility that she’s not commenting because she’s heard it all before, and instead of talking about it I need to be about it? Could it be that she doesn’t want me to know that she’s going to be there in the end, and wants me to squirm a little and not make it so easy since she’s given in to the talk before? Could it be that she doesn’t want to talk about it anymore because she feels differently? I’ve got many questions I know I won’t get an answer to, at least not from her. Can any of you ladies give a brother some insight on your thought process when it comes to this type of stuff?“

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What advice would you give for our reader?

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