I have been with my man for a little over a year and we are happy for the most part. My thing is he goes to NC every weekend for his job but I have never been with him and I don’t have a land-line number for his job. I have searched his company but when I call his company no one can help me.
I didn’t start questioning him until recently and it has started a riff in our household. My cousin said I need to use the iPhone feature that locates his phone and go to where it says because she believes he has another family in NC. I couldn’t see him having another family but something is going on. My other friend said she thinks he is gay and he goes to see his lover on the weekends.
Please help me what should I do. I don’t want to be that nagging girlfriend but this is starting to bother me like crazy! I need some help from people that don’t really know the situation.
Now here’s my 2 cents on the situation. I couldn’t tell you if he’s cheating, got a secret family or gay but what I can tell you is something is entirely wrong with this situation. You’ve been with a man for over a year and you don’t know how to reach him in case of an emergency outside of his cell? Have you been to his job? Do you know where he works? Such information can be found via Google but if you don’t know where he works then that is your first red flag. Finding out he doesn’t have a job, or even a job that requires him to travel, could throw a wrench in his whole operation and give you all the information you need to know. Does he talk about work with you? Do you know his supervisor’s name or his role in the company? These are small things that come out during a year of dating someone.
I’m a huge person on trust and not violating someone’s privacy unless you are ready to reap the consequences that come along with it. If you are at a point of using a GPS tracker, which is all “Find My iPhone” really is, then you are at a point where your trust has been violated. Just keep in mind, if it turns out he is not in NC, then what? Do you blow up his cell and demand an explanation? What if he is in NC? Do you drive/fly down there and find out what’s going on? If you don’t plan on doing anything then going through such lengths to find out this information isn’t going to do anything but drive you more crazy. This is the equivalent of looking through his phone. Don’t do it unless you’re ready for all that comes with it.
Something you may be able to try is telling him that you have a family reunion in NC one of the weekends he goes and suggest that you two drive down together. Then you read his reaction. If he’s perfectly fine with it, he may be on the up and up. If he’s combative, something is wrong. This would be a good time to start some dialog about where he is actually going.