So, you bagged him. This could mean several things: he called you, you went out on a date or you had sex. Let’s deal with what happens after you meet him.
Before I go on, this is really for chicks who want to be WIFED—not that cute little “wifey” phrase with the engagement that last 5-10 years. I’m talking about getting a baller to marry your ass in a year or less. They have to marry eventually, and it should be you! But you gotta play your cards right before you get there. Here are a few tips:
Hold off on the Sex! Yes, especially if you want a relationship with one baller. If you want just sex, then do your thing. But to have any kind of consistency with one man, you gotta hold your own weight. Wait until a few dates AT LEAST, before you give it up. It will throw him off. He may wait, he may not. But he’ll definitely be thinking what your angle is or what the hell is up with you! Like he got time to play games. That’s his business. You have to be firm. A certain girl did this to a NBA (popular) several years ago and got him to propose and marry her because he thought she was “the real thing.”
Treat his Ass Like Shit! Don’t take all his calls. You’ve had sex and you’re feeling open. Get a hobby, take a vacation, just disappear. They love that. Remember, you’re supposed to be sweating them, right? Nah. Keep his behind guessing. At the end of the day, he is just a man. He needs you to make him feel good. Alternate between hot and cold.
Don’t Pay for a Damn Thing! Let’s be real here. You want to seem like you don’t care about his money, but you do. Never offer to pay for anything. Even if you are just having sex and your nose is wide open. Always be ready to receive. If he asks you to pay for something, bounce. He’s playing games. You don’t have the time. Time is money and your beauty is fading!
Get Him To Propose To You! Ladies, white chicks got this down! They are not settling for the bone as quick as other chicks are. Always keep your sense of self, it’s not about sex, it’s about the R-I-N-G. That is the way you can get security. Who cares if he pays your cell phone bill and rent. That is small compared to a lifetime of luxury and financial abundance.
Keep The Baby No Matter What He Wants! Pregnant? Keep it. Nuff said.
Make Him Bond With You! Always do what your man asks, no matter what. Don’t make him wait for anything. You want him to see how dependent you are on him. Ask him for permission. Mimick his ways—the way he talks, phrases he says, things he does, gestures he makes. He’ll think you were made for each other. Let him dress you. Let him pick out outfits for you, etc. Make him dependent on you.
Redecorate his whole house, throw out things you don’t like, choose the parties you two go to. It’s easy ladies, have confidence! He’ll watch you like “Wow, she must know what she doing! Oh well…”
Claim Your Territory! After their first time in bed, a certain NFL wife left chiffon purple panties under her baller’s pillow scented with her perfume. He found it a week later (you know how they travel), called her up, and she hasn’t left his house since. He still has it in a plastic zip-lock. Leave shit. Bobbie pins, lipstick tubes, etc. I don’t care what he says! When the next chick comes through, it’s gonna be drama. You are not there to make friends, as they say on those reality shows, you are there to take over!
The Take Over! At this point, you have your baller, things are going well, he calls, he takes you out, you even met his mama. But never be on their team! Always align with your man. You don’t want them in the picture influencing him. You want to completely isolate him from his friends and family. A certain NBA wife who has a reality show with her hubby did this, so did Vanessa. HOWEVER, it’s about you and him. Hire a life coach and have this coach “work” with him, and you on the relationship. Feed the life coach stuff to teach him to be his best with you. Even if you have to slip coach a few extra dollars. Cut off his whole thing, and eventually all he will need is you and can’t make a decision without you.
With that said, you have to have confidence in this game. There’s no room for low self-esteem and second guessing. This game is gonna get played, with or without you. This is your life, live it!
Get ‘em girl!