Ballerific Relationships – Shopping While Hungry: Everything Appeals, Nothing Fulfills

It’s a busy day in the office and you work through your lunch break with a promise to treat yourself to your favorite meal once you’re home. You’re finally free and dash to your car with the intention to get home as quickly as possible when you hear the rumble in your tummy is almost as loud as your car stereo. You’ve already mentally prepared the meal you’ve been craving and you can almost taste your favorite wine when you remember that you have nothing you need to prepare it. Nothing a quick grocery trip can’t fix, though. Once there you’re suddenly overwhelmed with the plethora of options and begin to grab everything in sight including things you know you don’t really want or need. As you you unpack your groceries you begin to notice that you were so busy grabbing things that looked good you totally forgot to get what you really wanted and got a bunch or crap instead. “Oh well, this will do” you think. Only it doesn’t and you realize what they mean when they say never shop while hungry. Every thing appeals but nothing fulfills.

People in my life make fun of me because when I have a taste for something I want it and if for some reason I can’t have it I won’t eat at all. Crazy? Maybe. I am the same way when it comes to dating and relationships. I’d very much rather go without than to fill up on emptiness. Sometimes, we shop on an empty stomach without ever having to step into a grocery store. When it comes to Love and relationships most of us know what we want but it is often a matter of not settling in the process. For some, the task proves simple while it may be more of a challenge for others. Perhaps you don’t even realize that you’re settling because you’ve somehow convinced yourself that you’re just being open minded. There is a difference, trust me. There is nothing wrong with bending your own rules or adjusting them accordingly when it comes to trivial things but when you ignore what matters most to you in exchange for companionship, you have settled.

Why do we settle? It’s such a simple answer yet a complex one at the same time. We settle when we do not believe we deserve what we desire or when we lack the discipline waiting requires. Your values and desires matter. YOU matter and you are enough. In fact, to the right one, you are MORE than enough. I know personally that being single is as lonely as it is liberating. It gets hard, you get overwhelmed and feel like your time is never going to arrive. What you do while you wait is a true test of faith and patience. Fill up on you, feed yourself and nurture your spirit as much and as often as you can because dating while lonely is as risky as shopping while hungry. Everything appeals but nothing fulfills.