Ballerific Relationships: Those Pesky Red Flags By @milagreee

When in the early dating stages, men tend to tell you what they want from you right up from or rather, tell you what they don’t want. However, the way they deliver this message isn’t always the same for every man. Some men will be honest upfront and tell you exactly what it is that they want from you. Others, who aren’t as upfront, will show you. These men give off “red flags” or notions as to what they really want from you.  As women, we are sometimes unable and/or unwilling to see these red flags, even though they might be waving in our faces. We should always take note of these particular signs because at times, we are our own worst enemy. We blind ourselves and selective hearing and the selective interpretation of actions kick into play. We hear and see exactly what we want. These flags are our warnings as to what is to come if we continue to pursue a relationship of any kind with this man.

                One of the most obvious flags is the infamous text/phone call at 2:30am. After a certain hour, there is only one reason a man will attempt to contact you. That’s right ladies, BOOTY CALL! Regardless of what connection you think you guys already have, you must realize that a 3:00am text message is basically a booty call. I highly doubt that this guy is dying to cuddle on the couch with you, after a long night of drinking, to talk to you about passions and dreams. This guy has one thing on his mind, and it doesn’t involve talking.  ‘

                Suppose you go on a date with this guy who you absolutely vibe with and you’re definitely excited to get to know him on a deeper level. After a while, you realize that the conversation doesn’t ever break the surface. You ask him about his career to try and get a glimpse into what his passions are, and his answers are short and sweet. He barely asks you any questions that might reveal too much about who you really are. When he does ask you questions, he might not really be listening to the answers. The waitress’ uniform seems a little more interesting to him at the moment. Hello, red flag! A man who genuinely wants to get to know you will not refrain from speaking about himself or asking you questions that might give him a better idea of the sort of person you are. He should care about what your passions, hopes, goals and dreams might be. By not asking, he’s letting you know that he doesn’t really care.         

                The old “Houdini” act is when he tends to disappear on you and then reappear out of thin air more often than not. Although magic shows can be fun, this particular trick isn’t. This man is definitely sending you a message that he is not that interested in you. Most men that are truly into you will do anything to get you. Immature men tend to have a harder time telling you exactly how they feel,so instead of doing so they decide that they will disappear. This can leave you utterly confused. This act is extremely selfish but a total Jerk Alert. Consistency is necessary to build trust and this guy just isn’t trying very hard to build it.