Baller Mail: “Help! I’m Dating A Man With Insecurities. What Do I Do?”

If you’re going through a tough time-whether its with your relationship, your career, or just life, Baller Alert is here to give you some advice. While it can be hard to talk to family and friends out of fear of being judged, we are here to be that listening ear. If you want to remain anonymous or don’t mind putting your business on front street, our followers will always give you the real deal and tell you what you need to know. If you would like some ballerific advice from our followers, email your questions to [email protected].


Baller Mail…Message!


“HELP ME PLEASE! I have been dating this guy for 3 and a half years. Throughout our relationship we have been arguing from day one. To the part where we argue everyday, every other day, or every week. Our arguments would consist of social media, why I like certain peoples pictures, why someone would comment on my pictures, not being home to cook a meal in time for him and just anything you could think of. He has all my passwords to my social media and phone but I’ve also noticed that he would go unfollow guys from my pages if they would like my pictures too much or comment. He would also lie and say that his friend or someone he knows told him that someone dm’d me but, little did I know he had all my notifications going to his phone. It’s like I couldn’t even converse with my guy friends or even girlfriends because he would go through our messages. He has cheated and entertained other females in the past and I have done the same. We tried working on the arguing and our issues but obviously nothing is getting better. I’m so over the relationship, the arguments, and all the damage thus far. I love him but don’t think I can continue to deal with this. What do I do?”


Well, in my opinion you have pretty much made your decision. You are obviously fed up with his insecurities and I don’t blame you. It can become extremely annoying and overwhelming having someone constantly accusing you of doing something that you are not doing. A relationship is built on trust. Both of you broke that trust with your infidelities but that is no excuse to continue searching through your phone and sneaking behind your back to check your social media.


I would suggest the two of you to have a conversation about how unhappy this is making you and that changes need to be made. If he cannot get over the fact that the you have cheated in the past, then there is no need to continue the relationship. It seems that he thinks his cheating is different from your cheating, especially since there is this notion that women cheat with emotions. He cannot handle the fact that another man has had sex with you. This is not going to end unless you make the first move towards happiness. Life is too short to stay in an unhappy relationship. Do what is best for you and only you!



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About Peachkyss

Peachkyss is the Fashion Writer and Content Curator for Baller Alert, who keeps the reader up-to-date on the latest trends, the latest luxury brand collections, and how to "ball" on a budget.  Peachkyss has her Bachelors in Elementary Education with a concentration in Mathematics from Norfolk State University and Masters in Middle Grades Mathematics from Walden University.  Have a question about what your favorite celeb is wearing or fashion advice, email me at [email protected] "Style is a way to say who you are without having to speak."

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