It’s the 4th of July and your girlfriend wants fireworks. I’m not talking about hanging outside with a million strangers on a lawn watching colorful sparks burst into the air. Nope. She wants the kind of fireworks that causes her body to tremble and leaves her dripping wet. She’s used to having sex feel like a pleasurable activity but this summer, give her a pleasurable sexual appearance.
Talk The Talk Then Walk The Walk
Before giving the satisfaction of your touch, you have to make her feel it in her mind. She has to be able to imagine it. You have to create intense anticipation. Keep this in mind; a trailer precedes every movie. You want her but you have to give her a reason to want you. Compliment her on what you like about her. This is not high school, so don’t just tell her eyes are beautiful and that her lips are luscious. Tell her what you feel when you look into her eyes and tell her how you feel when you kiss her lips. Next, you want to tell her what you will do to her. Don’t exaggerate, as she will be disappointed if you don’t pull through. What you want to do is intrigue her senses. Tell her where you will kiss, where you will touch and of course what positions you want to have her. When creating fireworks in the bedroom, setting the scene is necessary.
Sex Is In The Air
Now that the scene is set in her mind, you now have to create the scene for her body. You want, no, need her to surrender her body to you. She has to belong to you. Put her at ease and the best way to do so is to make your surroundings sexual. In the bedroom, cover your bed with some high thread count sheets. Though your favorite R&B songs may suggest silk sheets, it can get very uncomfortable as the sex becomes intense and you begin to sweat. Strategically place unscented candles throughout the room. For added affect, sprinkle rose pedals that lead up to the bed. Taking the time to create the scene, assures her that you will take the time to give her satisfaction.
It’s All About Her
Sex can be a very selfish act. Most of the time, we pursue it so that we can satisfy our desires. Then, once we satisfy those desires, we roll over and fall asleep or get dressed and leave. If you’re going to give her fireworks, you have to make it all about her. You have to be willing to do the things you know she will enjoy. Moreover, take it up a notch by adding variations of what she likes. If she craves oral sex, don’t just lay her on her back and stick your head in between her legs. Lie on your back and allow her to straddle your face. Give her an opportunity to dictate how much of her you get to taste and how long you get to taste it. You also want to use the pillows around you to create new angles for the positions you enjoy. You also want to break out of your routines. She shouldn’t be able to predict what will happen next. Keep her guessing. Then, when she’s cumming, increase the sensation by adding another element such as rubbing her clitoris or pulling her hair. Make it about her, and she’ll soon feel like it’s the 4th of July in between her legs.
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