Ballerific Relationships – Is Shacking Up Good For The Relationship

How long do you wait before you move in with your significant other. Do you believe that you should get married before living with your mate or is shacking up the new “getting to know someone”.

 

Everyone has a different idea on the subject. Our elders would likely tell us not to move in with someone until we are married. They’d tell us that shacking up is a sin and that it only leads to other sinful things. Hey, they may very well be right but do you honestly think that shacking up can be any good for a relationship? I believe it can.

 

You never really know a person until you’ve had to spend every day with them. There’s a such thing as “the honeymoon period”. That’s the short amount of time where everything about your significant other is great. Everything is working out fantastically. You live together, she cooks breakfast, he brings home the bacon. She asks him about his day and he shows her all the attention in the world. That period eventually dies. If it doesn’t die completely, it goes into a coma, that’s for sure. So then what do you do? You’ve got a wedding ring that binds you to this person for the rest of your life and you decide “Hey, I don’t really like this dude. He’s annoying, his feet stink, he’s a cheater and he leaves the toilet seat up!”. At this point you could get a divorce, but who’s going to pay for that? This is where living with someone comes to play. You get to see a person’s bad habits way before you’ve committed the rest of your life to them. Don’t get me wrong, if you’ve dated someone for years, you’ve seen a lot of bad habits, but none like living with someone. Those habits are completely different. Living with someone can become annoying. If you can withstand a year or two of that you can probably withstand anything.

 

The next question is how long you should wait before you take the big leap. Honestly, that’s up to you and your partner’s compatibility. If you’ve spent a year with them and their poop still smells like roses, you’ve got a winner. On the other hand, if after a year you’re questioning your commitment to him, you should probably either wait it out or call it off.

 

As you can probably tell, I don’t see much wrong with living with someone. Granted, I wouldn’t move in with someone unless I knew them well to begin with. Too many people these days are moving in, but hardly know the person they’re attempting to live with. There are stages of “knowing” someone you must go through before you actually take the step to living together. That’s a whole ‘nother blog in it’s own!

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