Now a days, it seems like being in a relationship is the popping thing to do — like Hitting the Quan, booty implants, and #RelationshipGoals memes. Every time I get on social media, there’s another new couple alert. While no shade to them, I also see just as many ugly breakups unfold on social media — complete with screenshots, twitter rants and leaked nudes. Relationships are a beautiful addition to anyone’s situation, but they are not a necessity by any means. I know being alone has its cons, but being in an unhappy relationship isn’t much of an upgrade either. Before you go wasting your time with your Baller wanna-be, read why it’s ok to be single, and use that time preparing yourself for the real baller.
Focus on You
When In a relationship, your focus is spread between the well-being of the relationship, your partner, and yourself. Often times it becomes easy to spread too thin and neglect focus in one area to accommodate the others. When single, you don’t have to worry about being overwhelmed, and can, instead, use all of your time and effort to focus on making yourself happy; support your own goals, pamper yourself and splurge when you deserve it.
Ok To Be Alone
Have you ever met the girl who’s never single? No matter what, she’s in a relationship, with her dead beat baby-daddy, her ex, the uber driver, or the creep from Tinder, literally anyone gets a chance. More times than not, she’s not happy, or emotionally fulfilled, rather overworked from looking, and used to settling for les, out of her fear of being alone. Don’t be that girl, understand there’s more peace in solitude than it is in a miserable union.
Learn More About You
Being alone helps you learn things about yourself that may have gotten lost in the midst of a relationship. With just a little effort and self-reflection, you’ll begin to learn more about your flaws, your areas for improvements, and your perfections. Once you accept being alone, and welcome self-understanding and love, it’ll make it easier in selecting a legitimately compatible partner, one that accentuates your positives and helps you learn from your flaws.
Learn About Others
When you’re single you have the freedom to go on dates and use them to learn about all the different, colorful people out there. Dating will hopefully make it easier to spot the right one while picking through a crowd of wrong ones. And yes, dates can seem like a waste of time, but remember If the date didn’t bring you what you wanted in a man, at least it showed you what you don’t.
Just like all fads, there are extreme pros and cons to each; and being in a relationship is no exception. Being alone sucks, and having a cuddle buddy who gives nice booty rubs on those lonely nights, would obviously be the perfect remedy. However, having the strength and clarity to become self-sufficient, and self-aware will provide you with joy as well; ultimately setting you up to meet the perfectly tailored Baller for you when the time is right.
