Ballerific Relationships: Waiting On You To Give In And Hit Me Up

 

Just let it fly.

No one ever wants to fold. You know that feeling when you want to talk to someone but don’t want to hit them up? We need to get rid of that. We’re built around miscommunication and suppressed feelings. Who cares if you were the last one to start the conversation? Who cares if the person didn’t text you back last time? You start to realize that none of that really matters at the end of the day. It’s become normal for two people to avoid communication for pride and petty reasons. We have to let that go.

We’ve all done it. We’ve all purposely not hit someone up because we just didn’t want to be the ones to give in. The person that gives in always feels at a disadvantage. You feel like you gave in or that the other person is going to feel like they have one up on you. But really they wanted to talk to you just as bad. It doesn’t make you weak for being the one to initiate the contact. Someone has to do it. The waiting game just prolongs the conversation and keeps you in your feelings. We waste countless hours thinking of what we want to say and how we want to say it. The conversation has to happen or you’ll never feel satisfied.

Closure is so important in life. It’s hard to move on without it. It starts to consume you and that feeling of wonder is never good. It really does take the bigger person to say enough is enough. Letting that first text fly is a great feeling. If you get a reply then you can finally let everything out once and for all. And if you don’t get a reply then at least you get the message. No message is a message. But something left in the air is just sitting there clouding your mind.

Aside from closure, that conversation you’re avoiding could work in your favor. Yes sometimes it is necessary to take a step back and avoid communication. This is the time you need to clear your mind and get your thoughts together. Now that you have organized your thoughts you should be able to communicate more effectively. There’s no point in organizing your thoughts and getting your mind right if you’re not going to do anything about it. You have to let it out and the other person is probably ready to do the same. That conversation becomes the conversation that you should have had from the start. It’s bound to happen and there’s no reason to prolong it when you’re ready. Taking time to sit on it just gives each side time to suppress their feelings and avoid being honest with themselves and each other.

There’s no weakness in hitting someone up for a conversation that’s weighing heavy on your mind. That mentality causes tension and frustration that could be avoided. Once you finally give in you see just how much better you feel. You can only keep things bottled in for so long and at some point it becomes destructive. Sticking to your pride will cost you the opportunity you have to gain the closure you need. People don’t care about things forever. We have to take advantage of the times we do have to express ourselves. And stop letting petty emotions cloud our judgement.