Ballerific Sex – BDSM

When it comes to fetishes people have misconceptions about the things they don’t know. They often feel that fetishes are only for perverted, sick and crazy individuals. Those misconceptions come from what they’ve been shown and the wrong information they’ve been given. For example, ask anyone what they think about BDSM (Bondage and Discipline, Domination and Submission, Sadism and Masochism) and they will probably depict a picture of two individuals dressed in leather costumes engaging in sexual activity that involves whips, chains and pain. While their depiction wouldn’t be wrong, they would be describing the most extreme form of BDSM. Let me help you paint a more seductive picture. By definition, BDSM is an erotic activity involving restraint, sensual stimulation and fantasy role-play. All three of things heighten the sexual experience. Here are a few tips on how to engage in BDSM and kinky sex.

 
All Tied Up
When it comes to having sex, some people are dominant, some are submissive, and some like to switch between being dominant and submissive. When being submissive, someone allows himself or herself to be vulnerable. With consent, their partner has free will to do what ever they want. There is something intensely erotic about being vulnerable. Let’s explore one of the key elements of sexual vulnerability, bondage. What you are accustomed to seeing on porn sites is that bondage involves leather straps, chains, locks and handcuffs. Bondage at home does not have to be so extreme. All you will need is silk scarves. Have your partner lay in bed with their arms and legs spread. Take the tip of the scarf and glide it along the inside of the arm or thigh of the body part you are about to tie up. Do this for each arm and leg. Do not tie your partner too tight. You want them to be able to get out of it being tied on their own. Once bound, perform oral sex on your partner. Focus on stimulating the areas your partner finds extremely sensitive. On a man, it’s usually the head of the penis. On a woman, simultaneously sucking & flicking her clit typically drives her nuts.
 
Blindfolded
Mystery is intriguing. Curiosity is consuming. Anticipation is intense. Your partner can experience all three when blindfolded. In movies, the climactic experience comes from being able to ask, “What happens next?” and then being able to answer that question later. Sex is no different. Use blindfolds to create that climactic experience. You can either use scarves or blindfolds from a sex shop to cover the eyes of your partner. Tease them by playing a “tasting game” using fruit, candy and toppings. Reward them with kisses and by putting parts of your body in their mouth when they answer correctly. After a certain amount of correct answers, reward them with a grand prize of their choosing.
 
Pleasurable Pain
What would BDSM be without a little pain? There are things that hurt, and then there are things that “hurt good”. One of those things that can “hurt good” is having candle wax poured on the body. It sounds painful, but if used correctly it can provide a pleasurable pain. Have your partner lie on their stomach. Using a candle, tilt it until a single drop lands on their back. Follow it with a kiss. Repeat this step and as their threshold of pain increases, pour a little more. Once you’ve reached the small of their back, follow it up with a sensual massage to loosen them up a bit. If using candle wax is a bit much for your partner, try using ice.
 
Note: When using candle wax, avoid the face, nipples, genitals, etc.
 
Sex should always be committed between two consenting adults. Always practice safe sex.
 
Written by: @TheilluminADY

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