He’s Not My Usual But Thats FINE!!

They say all the good men are gone,taken or gay. I say you aren’t looking in the right places!

I’ve dated a lot of the same types of guys. Not that I go out looking for these guys (Lord knows I really don’t!) but for some reason thats what I attract. Not always, but a good majority of the time. Something about me keeps getting the guy with no drive and no ambition. He talks about his dreams, but won’t make it happen. And when it comes to being in a healthy relationship he’s more concerned with doing his own thing than working on us. Let’s face it, relationships take time and work. Right now, I just ain’t got the time folks! So I’ve been taking the time out to be single and find me, blah blah blah. Needless to say, I enjoy the single life. No fighting, no answering to anyone, no worries! D*ck is always readily available…face it, dudes are always ready and willing to give it up just as much as the women that talk mess about (ladies are pimps too). I do kinda miss the cuddling, kissing and dating aspect but thats a small price to pay for a few less headaches. Now that I have gotten that out of the way…on with the blog:

 

He’s Not My Usual..and you know what? Thats FINE! What I look for in a man and what I usually get are two different things. The things that attract me. for some reason, turn out to be the things that cause the most problems in the future. Somehow I want a big, strong, sexy man who can protect me, and isn’t afraid to counter my attitude and funny thing is I end up with a “dope boy”. Sorry, been there, done that, it aint cute! Give me something *new*.

So I meet a guy, under unusual circumstances i guess. He’s by no means like my usual. For once what I want and what I attract finally coincide with one another. He’s 100% on his SHIT, he’s smart, laid back and for dig this….he’s my motivation. Weird huh? Someone I can look up too! It’s usually the other way around. He has no kids, no crazy baby mama’s, no girlfriends and the only thing on his mind is GRINDING! *swoons* Now a million dudes are gonna hit me up and say this describes them. Let me save you the time and hit you with some realness THIS DOES NOT DESCRIBE YOU!!!. Somewhere in your warped mind you think this is you, but its not. You my friend, are none of the above! This guy knows the right things to say, the right way to say it and the right time. He’s known in the streets but he won’t be going to jail no time soon. People love him, but he’s not cocky by any means. You broke ass, gutter butt dudes are cocky and for what? Selling drugs and not going to jail this week? Please!

He isn’t like most guys that I would date. Although he has all these great qualities he doesn’t have that “swag” (for lack of a better word) that I’m usually attracted to. He’s a little “different” and he isn’t the cutest student in the class. Under normal circumstances we wouldn’t even know each other. I lucked out! Now with that said, I still choose to remain single (for the time being anyway) I just wrote this blog to point something out. Good men are out there, stop looking in your usual places, you’re only going to get the usual guy. To do the same thing over and over and expect something different is insanity. I don’t consider myself crazy!