Keep Him How You Got Him By: Milagros Reyes @milagreee

 

You took your vows, you might have even signed some kind of a pre-nup. But at any point in that pre nup did you say that you were going to stay in shape in order for the marriage to work? Do you owe it to your man to stay in shape throughout the marriage in order for it to continue?

 An alarming amount of couples get divorced because they do not stay in shape and their husband s are now disgusted by the permanent FUPA that their wife carries. They’re embarrassed to be seen in public with their wives, they are wondering what happened to the 5’5” 125 lbs,  gorgeous woman that they fell for and married, who’s turned into this hideous clone of Miss Piggy.

In our culture we are programmed that a woman has to look good for her man and her man has to provide. So once she starts to lose her shape, he’s out in the field looking for someone that he could possibly be sexually attracted to.

There’s a saying that says, “You keep him how you got him,” and whoever’s grandma came up with that was right. If he cheated on someone and that’s how you got him originally, he’ll probably cheat on you too.

I also believe that if your man prefers something, than if you love him, you might sacrifice something to make him happy, and vice versa. I feel as though when a man is your man he is your king and you are his queen. You do what it takes to make that man happy and he should the same.

You do what it takes to keep him attracted you, as attracted to you as he was when he first met you. Most men hate when women decide to let themselves go.

This might be a little sexist but let’s face it, its reality. Before you got married, you kept yourself clean and pretty. Just because he put a ring on it, doesn’t mean that it’s time to let things go. How he met you is how he wanted you. Of course, with time you will both gain weight and get older but the love is still there. When a man gains weight its less of an issue for women. But men are very visual creatures. Making sure that you’re still in shape, and making sure what makes him happy is done might cause less problems in your relationship. He’ll be happy to come home to his beautiful wife instead of making plans to hang out with his stupid single friends.

This might sound a little harsh because I can come off a little feminist at times, but the bottom of the line is “you keep them how you got them.”