Let me paint it straight. I love you that deep forever enduring kinda love. I believe in love that’s patient kind real. But right now the narrative is broken. So many of us women and men don’t know how to act and that “down ass chick” idea It’s not serving anybody.
Our culture puts music and gossip above wisdom trending topics above real change arguments above resolution. When will we wake up When will we get it Too often we hand women the job of being everything. Holding their man down loving him waiting on him raising him protecting him forgiving him even acting like a lady when he wants a “ho” while still not being independent enough to scare him off. Meanwhile the message is loud and clear. Don’t be too self sufficient or he might leave. Boy bye to that nonsense.
Women have been lowering their standards bending over backward just to keep that man around. But what if we flipped it What if we demanded a man who’s down ass Someone who shows up matches your energy lifts you supports you and builds with you instead of holding you back
Here’s the real. What has kept many women strong often makes some men weak. Women step in to pick up slack offer help hold it down but too often that doesn’t become appreciation. It becomes expectation. You find yourself being the go to fix while he takes it for granted. Support becomes a crutch and you become the silent partner in your own erasure especially when he flips out at the thought you might leave.
Not every woman walks out after betrayal embarrassment or abandonment. Some stick around hoping maturity or faith will change the man. But year after year of waiting praying compromising and you end up disappointed regrets piling up while he moves on. A few men do grow. But why roll the dice on your peace your heart your time
Here’s the bottom line. You are not required to wait. You are not required to hold it down if your love commitment and effort aren’t matched. True love doesn’t ask you to sacrifice your worth on the altar of hope. True love moves together. It supports respects endures and it doesn’t come at the cost of you.
So let’s change the script. Demand reciprocity. Expect “down ass” energy in return. You deserve nothing less.
