I don’t claim to be an expert on men by any means however, I have a great relationship with my father and host of other men (uncles, cousins, & friends)that I make sure to keep an open dialougue with in an attempt to have better understanding of these creatures that I love so much. Following is a list of ten things that most men I have talked to claim that they need in a woman that they plan on keeping around for the long haul. Be objective and put aside the bad advice you have received from your no man having friends. You may be suprised at how simple so of these things are.
Need #1: Men Need An Understanding Woman
Believe it or not, men need lots of understanding.
A man will usually screw up at least three times when he is in a relationship with a woman. Some men will screw up more and some less. Just know that a man will screw up.
Once you understand that, the question is, “How will you deal with it?”
Unless a man has a woman who is willing to understand why he screwed up, it will make it difficult for him to deal with it and to prevent it from happening again.
The truth is if he were with himself, it wouldn’t matter to you if he screwed up.
Many women wouldn’t care for the excuse or to understand why it happened.
It is important to note that I am talking about men who are responsible and taking care of business that make mistakes. Not the knucklehead men that make you want to pull your hair out.
Some of the reasons men give for their screw-ups are so childish and trivial you may want to knock them upside the head.
The key is to get to the core of the problem that cause him to do silly, unbelievable things. Once that happens, you will begin to understand what influence your man and what he is thinking.
Your ability to help your man understand how to deal with his screw-ups will show him that you care. It will lead to him trusting you more and more!
Need #2: Men Need A Patient Woman
Most men, for some reason, are very slow to adapt. No matter how many times you tell a man to do something, he just doesn’t seem to get it.
If you don’t already know, many men are like children. You need to repeat yourself over and over until it finally sinks in. This is why you need patience.
I know that statement may offend some women but come on. Let’s be real and honest with each other. Just because a man is good doesn’t mean he has all the qualities you desire. And it doesn’t mean all of his bad or not-so-good habits disappear.
All I’m stating is many men tend to have a tendancy to be lazy, stubborn and hard-headed at times. And unless you stay on them a lot of things won’t get done.
I’m just being realistic here. If you’ve never dealt with this before then congratulations.
Once again, it’s important to note that we are talking about good men. You could imagine what it would be like with men who are considered “bad boys.”
It is very difficult to be patient with a boy who will never get his act together. The boy will drive you crazy and make you want to kill him. Also, he may increase your stress level!
You need to make sure that you have a real and good man who needs assistance in refining the rough, little things that are still present from his past experiences.
Remember, he will annoy the mess out of you! Just be patient, understanding and keep in mind that he is your man and you did pick him! If you don’t want him anymore, then let him go and get you another man or be with yourself.
Reminder: Most men do not know what they need. So, it’s important for you to control the process of helping your man identify what he needs ( we will get into this later this is a 5 part series)