Breakups can be hard for anyone, especially when children are involved. Although the two of you didn’t work out as a couple, you want to ensure that you are creating a positive environment for your children. Every decision that is made should be in the best interest of the children while being cooperative with one another.
Even though you are not with one another anymore, it’s important to have a mutual ground when it comes to your children. At one point, the two of you found each other irresistible. Although times have changed, it’s time to put your differences aside and do what’s best for the both of you as well as the children. As a result, we have compiled a list of ways to co-parent with your ex after a breakup in no particular order.
1. Respect Each Other- Respect is extremely important in co-parenting. You don’t want your children to constantly see or hear the two of you arguing or fighting. This will cause a major issue that could end up costing you your rights to be around your child. The two of you don’t have to like each other whatsoever but try to figure out a way to discuss the needs of the child in a mature way without cursing, arguing, or putting your hands on one another.
2. Put the Children First- Children should always come first when making decisions. Don’t make decisions off of anger or emotions. This is not about you. The child needs both of their parents in their life, so don’t make things hard for one another because of what caused you two to break up. Your feelings have nothing to do with how either parent will provide for the child.
3. No Sex- If the two of you are not together, let the sex go. Once again, you are getting your feelings involved that could cause you to get hurt in the process. Be smart about it!
4. Work Together- The two of you are partners and should work as such. Work together to provide for the child. If the child sees that the two of you can’t stand one another or you’re constantly talking negative about the other parent, they will try and play you against one another. Show your children that you can be cordial with each other. Keep a united front. Teamwork makes the dream work!
5. Stay Out of Each Other’s Personal Lives- Now that the two of you are no longer in a relationship, your concern shouldn’t be with what the other person has going on. As long as the children are being cared for, safe, respected, getting the essentials that are needed, and etc., you shouldn’t be worried about who is sleeping with who. That privilege is no longer valid. You know what’s right and what’s wrong, so use your best judgment.
Co-parenting can be difficult during a breakup but how you handle it can make or break your relationship. At the end of the day, your children are what matters the most. Continue to love and support them together and show them that mommy and daddy are working together to ensure that they are loved as well as provided for. Keep it cool, calm, and collective!