Chrisette Michele opens up about her divorce from Doug “Biggs” Ellison, saying she only got married to “try adulting.”
Michele said she and Ellison’s love bloomed from a legal matter in which she was suing him, according to Bossip. Since then, the two have gone back to court, this time to legally separate after only a few years of marriage. Now, Michele is revealing several details about her former husband and manager on her blog, “Chrisette Michele’s World.” The songstress says that she got married before she was ready and was “childish” for the marriage.
“Aston Martin Music drops. I’m in LA, a small-time millionaire, Grammy award-winning, and happily dating “grown-ups,” but… I’m a child,” wrote Chrisette. “A very successful… kid. Aaaaand, it literally never occurred to me that I’d missed a step until… Wedding Bells in Vegas (circa: 2016-2018). I walked down the aisle to “Love You Like A Love Song,” a techno club record TOTALLY meant for high heeled, couch dancing at LIV in Miami (or maybe Lavo in Vegas). Childish.” She went on to say that she didn’t want to abide by the social norms of marriage like living in the same city or having children, which she referred to as “small opinionated beasts.”
“I’m divorced now. I think I got married to try adulting on for size. Didn’t fit. My ex had latched onto the idea that adulting was a “thing,” and I’d never gotten the memo. Sure I brought home fairly large slabs of bacon, made up the bed, and opened a few businesses but… it wasn’t until after we divorced that I realized he had the intentions of living in the same city, raising small opinionated beasts who would grow IN MY STOMACH, and eating at the same restaurant every Sunday. Apparently, this soul quelling idea is called … “settling down.” Eeek… I just threw up in my mouth a little,” she wrote.
Michele also said she’d rather go to Whole Foods than be married or in a relationship. “One of my girlfriends text me. She said, ’I’m still hoping for magic for you.’ She was talking about love. I wanted to say, ’Is it ok for a woman not to be thinking about marriage for the same amount of time as any given man?’ I wanted to ask, ’Is it enough for me to love traveling, meeting new people, and long, lavish walks thru Whole Foods?’ Am I “not grown-up,” if I’m not constantly wondering about love and a home for 2? To avoid experiencing normal “Yes, I’m Judging You” thoughts from my home gurl, I said, “I’m not pressed.” To recreate my whole existence to fit into someone else’s? And then be stuck in one place forever? Yeah. No. Not right now.’” She said If she ends up with anyone else, she’ll be “shocked,” as she revealed that she is “complete.”
“Maybe I’ll be SHOCKED into a Couple of Forevers. My love language is touch, and I love to cuddle. Love is…nice. I’m open minded. I’ll try new things… but ummm… it’s quite likely too late that I’ll ever grow up. I skipped over that part of my twenties, and I’m not sure you ever get that back. I’m “humaning” (stole that ”word” from a pal). This is MY human experience. I’m patient enough to watch my life unfold, trust God to forgive, reveal, and restore and move forward. I fall. I get embarrassed. I stay at moms, eat good, then take my vitamins, and get back out there. Am I “on the market”? You can’t buy me. Am I “single”? I’m complete. Loving me is complicated, mostly because I’m content. Kids don’t love people because they have a nice house and diamonds. Kids love people because they smile, laugh at their jokes, spend time on the couch, and at the movies. I’m a kid that way… don’t need anything but the simple, beautiful, present human.”