Relationships are going to have their ups and downs, whether it’s due to trust, communication, finances, infidelity or something else. One factor that shouldn’t cause a relationship to go south, but normally does, is the relationship with the mother.
Normally, the mother doesn’t feel like her child’s significant other can provide or do for them like they do. They are so used to caring for or interfering in their “grown” child’s personal life, they don’t give them the opportunity to do or think for themselves. The interference becomes aggravating because they become overbearing, while consistently meddling in your business.
As soon as one bad thing is mentioned to the mother, she is going to hold on to it for dear life. She will throw it in your partner’s face every chance she gets and it’s going to cause issues. That’s when you need to step in before your partner does.
Disrespect shouldn’t be tolerated by either party but no one is going to continue to be belittled in any kind of way, especially from the mother of their significant other. It should never get to that point. Your partner doesn’t want to feel like they are in a constant battle between you and your mother.
The mother doesn’t have to like your partner but you need to ensure that she’s giving you and your partner the respect you two deserve. Don’t allow someone to interfere with your relationship or make decisions that don’t affect them.
Now, if it’s your partner’s mother that is being “extra,” then your partner needs to have a conversation with her, but that’s a whole other topic.