Dating can be extremely difficult, especially if you are just getting out of a relationship. The difficulties come from trying to get to know someone all over again as well as completely moving on from your past. Therefore, it is important to prepare for your date emotionally, mentally, and physically.
In order to have a successful first date, you have to ensure that you are leaving a great first impression. Great first impressions come from what you wear, learning about your date and their interests, and most importantly, leaving the baggage at home. There are certain topics and/or details that should be withheld during your first date. Save yourself the awkwardness during the date by vowing not to discuss these five topics.
One of the most important topics that should not be discussed during the first date is anything related to your ex. Discussing your ex will bring mixed signals to the other party. It gives the impression that you are not over them. No ones wants to go on dates with someone who can’t let go of the past. Leave your ex talk for a night with the ladies and a big glass of wine.
Discussing body count with someone you just met is inappropriate and should not matter. Even if you are sexually attracted to the person, the number of people you have had intercourse with in the past, should not be the topic of the evening. Honestly, I don’t think body count should ever be a discussion. If you two decide to take it to the next level one day, then make sure to get tested, and practice safe sex. Other than that, leave the body count conversation alone.
There are certain things that are too premature to even discuss on a first date. It is okay to ask what they do and how long, but to count their pockets is a big “No.” That topic should be saved for a later time once you two become serious. I’m sure that once they have discussed their occupation, you can determine whether or not you’re interested.
Me, Myself, and I
Don’t be so self-centered on your first date. It is okay to discuss yourself and your interests, but give the other person the opportunity to do the same. Make sure you are having a conversation and it’s not just one-sided.
Too Much, Too Soon
It’s all right to discuss what you want in terms of the future. Discussing that you would like to get married and have children one day is completely fine. Laying it out for the other person isn’t the problem. The deal breaker is when you come on too strong.
When you start telling your date when want to get married and the names of your future kids, you will have the other person screaming. Your date isn’t ready for that conversation on the first, second, third, or fourth date. Again, save that for Friday nights with the girls.
Remember, the first date leaves an everlasting impression. You don’t get a second chance to make a great first impression. So leave the unnecessary topics at home and good luck on the next date.
What would you add to the list?