There has always been a controversy over a person’s role in a relationship and the expectations of each. One of the biggest controversies is on the topic of proposals and who is supposed to get down on bended knee.
If you’ve watched #BlackInkChicago, then you know that last season Charmaine proposed to her boyfriend. After proposing in front of her friends at a lingerie party, he declined. The couple stopped by “The Breakfast Club” to discuss the proposal, which leads to us asking “Ladies would you propose to your mate?”
There are some women who proclaim that they would NEVER do such a thing and end up going off on a tangent blaming ALL men and their inability to “step up.”
Now, none of us know a person’s relationship and what they discuss in terms of marriage. You have some women over society’s rules and expectations on what a person should and shouldn’t do in their relationship. Is it wrong for the woman to go after the man she loves? Would the latter be so bad?
While some women expressed that they would never propose to a guy, some women feel that if they were to propose it would be in a private setting.
There are many speculations and questions that form on why a man hasn’t proposed to his girl and what made her want to propose. Is it possible that he didn’t propose yet because he’s not ready? Or could it be that a woman is ready for marriage and doesn’t want to sit around twiddling her thumbs waiting for a proposal. So, a woman shouldn’t have any initiative? It seems that a lot of these reactions are out of fear or rejection than an actual belief in gender roles or the way things should naturally occur.
It seems like people love trying to tell others what they are supposed to do. You aren’t supposed to say this or wear that. You’re supposed to live here and go there. Women aren’t supposed to do this and men are supposed to do that.
If you do find yourself ready and waiting do you go to your guy and say “hey, if we don’t move forward within the next year I am leaving?”
Would you propose to your man? Why or why not? Do you believe that a woman proposing to a man is an isolated case or do you believe it correlates to a generation of men “not stepping up” and forcing women to do so?