Let’s Talk: How Long Should You Wait Until You Bring Your Significant Other Around Your Child(ren)?

Dating can be very challenging when it comes to meeting the right person, not just for you but for your children as well. Of course, you don’t want to bring just anyone around your kids, so you have to be cautious about who they come in contact with.
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There have been countless headlines about someone’s significant other abusing or killing their mate’s children. That is a pain that no parent wants to bear, as parents should never have to bury their children. So, parents, you have to truly get to know someone, ask questions, and wait to have just anyone around your children.
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Every man or woman you come in contact with doesn’t deserve to meet your children. Take your time to get to know the person and ask plenty of questions. You want to make sure the person you are dating even likes children. Do not continue dating someone who feels that children can’t fit into their lifestyle. If they have shared they aren’t interested in children, do not think you can change their mind.
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Also, look into their backgrounds. Get a background check to be on the safe side. You will be surprised what details the internet will give you for a small fee. You shouldn’t want your children around someone with a criminal background such as murder, aggravated assault, sexual offenses, and etc.
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As parents, we have to protect our children at all costs. Now, I’m not telling you what to do but we have to think and be extra cautious. Everyone isn’t going to have the patience to deal with your kids.
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Now, everyone has their own timeframe when it comes to meeting the family and/or children. Some may wait 2-3 months or longer. Realistically, one should wait 6 months or longer. I say this because people show you what they want you to see at the beginning of a relationship. Once they have become comfortable, in most cases, their true self becomes more evident.
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Remember, only you know what’s right for you and your children.
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Have recent headlines made you more cautious about who you date and bring around your children?

Peachkyss

Peachkyss is the Fashion Writer and Content Curator for Baller Alert, who keeps the reader up-to-date on the latest trends, the latest luxury brand collections, and how to "ball" on a budget.  Peachkyss has her Bachelors in Elementary Education with a concentration in Mathematics from Norfolk State University and Masters in Middle Grades Mathematics from Walden University.  Have a question about what your favorite celeb is wearing or fashion advice, email me at [email protected] "Style is a way to say who you are without having to speak."

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