Often times when in a relationship, many of us ignore signs that show us who our mates really are. Instead of acknowledging the signs, we ignore them in hopes of change. People are not going to change because you want them to. They have to be willing to fix their issues for themselves.
It seems that when we ignore the small things that bother us, they become bigger issues later. Don’t let situations continue to build up until you are frustrated and at your wits end with your mate. They didn’t just wake up and begin lying, cheating, or disrespecting you-they showed you long before you chose to realize it.
The biggest mistake some people make is thinking that a child or marriage is going to change a relationship. If anything, it’s going to make it worse. The arguments go from being minor to a full-blown, blow out match. It’s not healthy for either party.
Marriage or children will never fix a broken relationship. I saw a friend of mine post, “Seesaw… What you SEE in a marriage is what you SAW in a relationship.” If that isn’t the realest ish I don’t know what is. That simple post makes you think about situations that we constantly ignore.
We can’t just blame our mate for their trifling ways. We have to be accountable for our actions as well. We saw the signs and now here we are.