“The Enemy”: A User Submission About Draya Michele

This blog submission was emailed to us by a Baller Alert reader by the name of Opal Stacie. This is entitled “The Enemy” and Draya Michele. 

Draya from “Basketball Wives: LA” is a physical representation of the unspoken fear shared amongst married or romantically involved women. Draya is the modern day black mans dream—high yellow with a body that is everything, fairly young, animated and she’s ‘bout that life.

 

By “’bout it” I mean she is willing to get down and dirty (literally) to snag herself a baller. Those palpable facts that we know about her are unnerving for a woman who’s trying to maintain a relationship with a man, especially if he is in a position of power and filthy f*cking rich. 

 

The other cast members, Gloria Govan specifically, has marked Draya Michele as “the enemy.” I’m concerned about “ The Enemy” label they’ve immediately stamped on a woman they don’t know from a can of paint. It is necessary to explore the eagerness to identify Draya as such.

 

Is Draya really the enemy? Unfortunately for these women, Draya is definitely not the enemy.  Zero brownie points are awarded to a woman creeping with an unavailable man but she is most definitely the LEAST of their problems.

 

The woman creeping with an unavailable (married or involved) baller is not obligated to his spouse. The side chick was not at the altar vowing to commit to a life of monogamy with you—the wife. In reality she owes you nothing. Agreed–she should have more respect for herself but her level of self-respect is none of your business. Your main concern should be the whereabouts of your ballers d*ck.

A man who does not respect his vows to his wife is an enemy. According to dictionary.com the word enemy is; a person who feels hatred for, fosters harmful designs against, or engages in antagonistic activities against another. The late night creep the boyfriend/husband has with another woman could be described as engaging in antagonistic activities against his wife, therefore the husband/boyfriend is “the enemy.”  Leave Draya and her hoe activities out of the mix—she is not innocent but she is not to blame.

The smell of insecurity is distinct and the “Wives” statements and discontent with Draya lets me know that these women are stink with it. They label her as a “groupie” because they see a bit of themselves (& their former groupie status) in her. The fact that these women lack confidence in their relationship as well as in themselves strikes fear whenever women like Draya are present.

 

The real question is: Why do these women fear “groupies” the way that they do?