Nobody Likes The Unsolicited Opinion

You know what I hate? When someone offers their unsolicited opinion. We all have that one friend, whether you ask them or not, they’re going to offer up their opinion and 9 times out of 10, it’s probably going to be something ignorant that you didn’t want to hear anyway. 

Don’t get me wrong, I understand if it’s something that can better your life, but is your opinion on the way I chose to wear my hair really necessary? Did I ask you to concern yourself with how much I spent on my child’s school clothes? Is it your bank account the money for this new car is coming out of? No, no and no.

The problem with some people is that though they mean well, they don’t realize that constantly offering their unsolicited opinion can become quite annoying. Not only is it annoying, but it can also be discouraging, especially if they never seem to have anything nice to say. 

It’s even worse when it’s not a friend, or someone you actually know. I notice it a lot with strangers on Instagram. Everyone has advice or an opinion about what you should be doing, but their lives are nearly wrecked as well. You ever notice how a stranger on social media, or even someone you meet at a grocery store, will take out of their “busy” day to tell you how to raise your children or spend your free time? Are you really telling me this because you care about my well being or are you being malicious? 

There are a lot of people who have a habit of doing this, but don’t mean for it to come from a mean spirited place. For those people, I have some advice for you. If you find yourself wanting to offer an opinion, think to yourself, is it really that serious? How would I feel if someone asked me this? Is anyone being harmed? If there’s no harm to anyone and it’s really not serious enough to bring up, don’t. Instead, say something uplifting to someone. When you feel like you need to be judgmental, tell your friend what they are doing RIGHT. Guarantee when you supply them with more confidence, the few times you offer your opinion won’t matter as much.