Consider this more of a discussion piece rather than an advice column. As women, we all know there are unwritten rules that we should abide by. A few of those rules have to do with the subject of men and dating. But what happens when your rule book doesn’t match that of your friends? What are the rules when it comes to dating a man your friend once had.
Relationships come in different levels. There are husbands, boyfriends, men she “talked” to, men she just had sex with, men she just “liked” and men who liked her. Which of these men are off limits? Let’s explain each.
Is it okay for you to knowingly date your friend’s “friend with benefits”? This is the man that she never had a true relationship with, he was just the man she chose to have sex with from time to time. Because the two never really had anything emotional, maybe he found you to be more of his type and wanted to materialize something with you. Should you stay loyal to your friend or take him up on his offer?
What about the man your friend used to date in the past? Is there a grace period where he is no longer off limits? After 5 years is it still not okay to date someone your friend had or does it depend on the seriousness of their relationship? Speaking of seriousness, what level of seriousness makes it okay for you to date a friend’s leftovers?
Let’s face it, everyone is dating someone else’s ex and every situation is different. In a perfect world a conversation with your bestie can eliminate any confusion but we all know the world isn’t perfect. You can talk to your BfF all day , she give you her consent and she will still be mad at you. This is why we have Girl Code. What is the Girl Code among you and your friends?
