The Other Side Chick: The “Side Peace”

First off, let me say that the only off-limits man is a man who is committed to his relationship, whether married or not. Why is this man off limits? Because HE set those boundaries out of respect for himself and his relationship. His woman doesn’t have to let other woman know about her because HE does that. She doesn’t have to stalk his social media pages breathing fire at any groupies sending heart eyes through comments, HE makes HIS WOMAN known to the WORLD, and shuts the ho**s down when they get out of line too! This is a man who not only LOVES but is IN LOVE with his woman. While the fairytale we have been made to believe as little girls might fall true for some, it is the exception, not the rule.

Arranged marriages and polygamy are uncommon in American culture, but you travel outside of the U.S., there are many types of arrangments that people are more than happy in. Now-a-days in our culture, it is becoming more and more common for people to stay in relationships for reasons other than love. Some don’t want to break up a home with children involved, and others think that it is financially smarter to continue living with a person even though you two can see yourselves amicably going your separate ways. And until it’s beneficial for both people to move on, some men (gentlemen in my opinion) would rather take care of their responsibilities they have already committed to, and have a “side peace”

So, what is a “side peace”? A side peace is a person whom you have casual encounters with, maybe often or not so often, and you make up your own rules that MUST BE ESTABLISHED IN THE BEGINNING so that NO ONE is confused later. They are the peace of mind you may be lacking at home because this person doesn’t nag, get mad, or expect much from you because after-all, there isn’t much to expect outside of the boundaries already set. If this person is a woman, she may be in a similar situation at home, or maybe her guy is away doing 10 with an 85% and she just needs a friend who won’t get feelings involved if sex happens because he already knows her heart belongs to someone else. Maybe you two vibe on a level different from your significant other, or maybe their freak level matches yours and instead of paying someone to fulfill your fantasies, you can act them out with your side peace who matches your sexual intensity. Maybe it’s a sapiosexual relationship, maybe they stimulate you mentally and you feel vibrations throughout your body every time you are around one another. Unlike regular side chicks, these woman get respect from the men they deal with. The great thing is you two aren’t dating, you’re not trying to impress one another, you’re not trying to see where this will go, because you two are probably at a point in your lives where peace is the most important thing to you, and you have already set your boundaries from the beginning. Although some boundaries are meant to be crossed, the respect and maturity level are too high for something to end on a bad note

So, ladies since I’ve mostly made this about men, the moral of the story is this. Some woman are out to get your man, those are not side peace’s though, those are home-wreckers. Some woman may not have intentions on taking your man, but if they are single, they are on the prowl, those are side chicks…but a side peace, she doesn’t want your man, in fact it’s the exact opposite. Keep your man, because she has hers. But you should pay attention, because a side peace lets you know when your home isn’t happy, but you still have time to fix it, if you want to. I don’t condone married men cheating, but I also don’t condone insecure delusional women who can’t seem to understand that their nagging and self-righteous “independent woman” attitude will not result in her getting a commitment from a man. Don’t blame the side peace…and if this don’t apply, you know the rest.