A Relationship Expert Defines “Gold Digger” Is He Right Or Wrong? (VIDEO)

A relationship expert went on a radio show where he was asked to define the term “gold digger”. He began his explanation by saying, “A woman who prioritizes money as her main goal when it comes to a relationship”. Very generic answer but I don’t know how much of a relationship “expert” he is, he didn’t really say anything that wasn’t common sense. Another guest brings up that it’s a power trip. The host makes the assumption that all “gold diggers” look like strippers and have no self confidence. Is this fact or fiction?

Before I get too in depth, allow me to point out that gold digging does not have a face. Gold diggers don’t look like strippers, nor is it a fact that a stripper wants to date a man solely for his money. In fact, let’s be honest, ALL WOMEN seek security in a relationship and quite frankly, money is a part of that.  Wanting a man who has money is not the same as wanting a man for his money and that’s where I think people get confused. Financial stability is important and no one should be allowed to shame you into thinking otherwise.

My definition of a gold digger is simple — a woman (hell, or even a man) that is with someone solely for financial reasons. Keyword SOLELY. Someone who dates someone else solely to be kept is likely a gold digger. A gold digger does not wear a name tag or a uniform. She can be a stripper or a college student.  She can be black and she can surely be white. Hell, she can be a He. 

But again, what I hate to see is women and men shaming other women for wanting to be financially secure in a relationship and labeling it the big ugly ‘G-Word’ when it isn’t. Listen, if a woman says she does NOT want a man that has money, I’m assuming she’s just as much a loser as he is. No way I would want to bare the burden of raising a family solely off my finances while he sits on the couch and plays X-Box. I’m not saying he has to be rich, but if we’re going to eat at this table, you’ve got to bring more than the paper plates and napkins. Any woman who yells out “gold digger” secretly wants the same thing. She’s just trying to save face for a society who could care less about her thoughts anyway. I highly doubt she’s enjoying spending money on a man who in turn takes that money and gives it to his other girlfriend. I’m sure she would like to be given a few dollars too — but I digress.

When men complain about women wanting a financially stable man, I simply assume that he’s a bum and he’s offended. A man with money, motivation and more will work to provide for his family, not just himself. No man should ever be content with being broke. That’s not how this works. It’s not how any of this works. You’ll never find a man with something going for himself calling a woman a gold digger. Why? He’s too busy. Dudes with no ambition and no drive have nothing better to do than label women for their own shortcomings. Dear Mr. Broke Man, why do you care about gold diggers? No one will ever dig anything from you. What can I dig you for? An order of fries on the value menu? Why are you so concerned about something you will never experience? 

And for the women who are actually gold diggers, so what? These women aren’t holding men down, raping and robbing them. They are being GIVEN the money. They aren’t crooks. The men they deal with know exactly what they are in it for and they happily oblige. Why? Because these men have status. Women love status. Status is power. You do what he says, he gives you things. If I can’t see myself living that way, I have the choice not to.  Who am I to complain about someone’s lifestyle that has no baring on mine at all?