Is Desiring a Man with Money So Bad?

We all have dreams and aspirations of what direction we want to see our lives to go: what neighborhood we want to live in and what city, the car(s) we park there, how many kids play in the back yard (with names selected since middle school,) and, more importantly, who sleeps next to you every night.

Never once did those dreams include visions of living with the disgust, anguish, and disappointment of dating/reproducing with/marrying a broke man!

Not knocking the non-ballers who still manage to precipitate panties, but this article is to answer the question of why women tend to aim high. I can sum it up in one simple word… SECURITY. Who wants to wake up one day and be 40 with no residuals? Who doesn’t want to be a homeowner, drive a nice vehicle, and afford their kids the luxury of the finer things? Exactly! No one. Aside from the ever present label of gold digger, a new one has emerged; GOAL digger. Women have goals and are naturally designed to be the strong matriarch of their homes. They naturally seek a mate who can allot them the things they desire…. It’s not women’s fault all these things cost money!

Men are historically the providers for the family, and as the patriarch, ensure all things are running smoothly for his feminine counterpart at all times. They are a team and a good man who is instilled with great values understands that he needs not pressure his mate, as she will organically make all things flourish. “There’s nothing like  a woman’s touch” proves to be true yet again when you’re in a relationship with a real woman with goals.

Don’t be fooled by this new age BS that a bond is better than a title, because you knowing your place in his life for 10 years means nothing to the state or the courts when a split may happen. Don’t be left out in the dark like the former Mrs. Wade, MiMi Faust, and countless others who grow older with no residuals or nothing to show for the ‘bond’ they once had. Being a spouse covers so much more ground and allows you to infiltrate his space in a more formal fashion.

Ladies, please just be sure to not settle for just any man who has a few coins and a mouthpiece full of broken promises. Remember in your quest for love and residuals that you are a person too and do not need to place stress on yourself or your children by making it a hostile environment. Find your complement and financial fit (don’t be the broke woman looking for a come up or rich baby daddy) and the rest will fall into place. Fellas, don’t knock her for wanting the finer things and loving someone who can provide that, because when she is on her way up, you’re sure to reap the benefits of her persistence.  The real joy is found in sitting back and watching her work with the resources she’s given.