Ballerific Relationships – Fire and Desire:The Art of Chemistry

Have you ever been so connected to someone that you could feel them walk into a room without actually seeing them? Ever have someone look at you so intently that you’d swear they were looking through you? How about when they step into your space and goosebumps rise and the hairs on the back of your neck stand at attention? Has the sound of their voice ever caused you to flush to the point your skin literally feels ignited? When they kiss you and you have to lean against something because your legs can’t comprehend what the rest of your body is experiencing? You ever had that? No? I envy you. I envy you because you don’t have to go the rest of your life hoping to experience it again. It is such a rare occurrence and once you get a taste of it the rest of the world seems unseasoned and overcooked.

We call that chemistry or “the spark” as some refer to it. While the two can be related, chemistry is not the same as attraction. One can feel attracted to a complete stranger simply because they look good but chemistry is that pull that you feel when physical, emotional and intellectual attraction are aligned. The two of you enjoy one another’s company tremendously and can alternate between heated debates (not to be confused with arguing) and laugh sessions. You find comfort in your differences but fill the gaps with the many ways that you are compatible. You can sit in silence and just “be” and feel completely fulfilled. And the sex? THE SEX? Ch.. CHILE. I N T E N S E. Chemistry is one of those things that can’t really be explained.. it is just meant to be felt so my words do it very little justice if any at all. Although my ideal view of chemistry is a package deal, there are those not as rare moments when other components are lacking but physical chemistry is there. You know, they treat you bad and $#@! you good and the only time you talk is when you’re speaking body language. I mean, so I’ve heard. I’m an angel so I wouldn’t know. *Adjusts halo*

For some, chemistry is instantaneous and for others it may come with time. Personally, I believe that you either have chemistry or you don’t and if you don’t turn my world upside down within seconds of meeting I am not interested. Okay, maybe I am exaggerating. While I am sure that people have Loving, happy and lasting relationships without the spark, it is something that I consider a must have. I think. If these components are missing then what makes the person you’re dating any different than someone who is just a friend? It is the combination of spiritual, physical, emotional, intellectual and sexual connection that ties it all together and sets it off. “Love is friendship on fire” right?

Does the spark ever go away? Well, it depends on who you ask. Some are lucky enough to feel the same intensity throughout their relationship while it comes in waves in other unions. Passion alone doesn’t sustain relationships but it sure is a damn good bonus.

What about you, do ya think it can grow if it doesn’t happen right away? Is ‘the spark’ needed to keep your relationship heated? Without it, do you feel that something is missing?