Dating has become such a big topic in 2014. There are so many ways of “dating” it is hard to keep up. There’s exclusively dating where you are together all of the time and act like a couple but do not have that “title”. Inclusively dating where maybe your friends know about him or her but you two mostly hang out alone every once and a while. The “talking” stages where you’re getting to know each and go out occasionally but none of your friends know about you two just yet. Then you have the booty calls, trophy girls and boy/girlfriends. To get to any of these stages there are certain steps you should take. Dating is a game unfortunately, it’s when you pick the weak from the strong; the players from the keepers; the winners from the losers. It’s when you can go out and show off. Just to impress a certain someone.
But sometimes females get under the impression that when they are just “dating” they should be catered to at all times. While men think that after one of two dates it’s time for sex. This is where those titles come in and signals get confused with lust. With dating comes tips and rules that I feel everyone should think about …
1. Be OPEN: to all dating situations. Don’t think a nice dinner and movie is a perfect date. You have guys that enjoy sports and might want to take you to a game, or an amusement with some kind of activity. This should not make him any less of an option. If you are closed minded when dating you will never find exactly what you might need. Remember a want and a need are two different things. So what if he’d rather take you to Hard Rock Cafe then the Steak House you wanted to go to. You never know what you might like unless you try it first.
2. Put in equal effort: Don’t make the other person make all the plans. Or ask you to hang out all the time or hit you up first. This can be hard, I know. Personally I like it when the guy hits me up first because it shows he misses me and wants to make time for me. I feel the exact same about him but I’m just not showing it. No one is a mind reader. Just like you like to feel special so does the other person. It could be as simple as, meeting up on your breaks, walks or runs in the park, festivals anything small or big. Its just the fact that you atleast tried.
3. Always look your best: When you’re in the “dating” stages its very critical that you are always on your A game. Make the other person want you, impress them with your scent, your walk, your style. This will intoxicate them. When they see you enough on your A game it won’t be an issue when you finally let it all down. Now this does not mean show up to a movie night with a face full of makeup and fully dressed. You can show up with your hair done, no make up, tights or shorts a tee shirt and still be fly. There’s always 3 things I make sure are always done; eyebrows, nails and always shaved Can’t go wrong with those all done.
4. Leave the drama at home: Everyone goes through things at the worst times. But if you’re trying to impress someone, complaining about your problems is not always going to work. Yes, sometimes expressing your problems can make a connection grow deeper but do not consistently vent about it. Especially to someone you are just getting to know. You want to stand out. Show that person you got it together even if you don’t. This shows independently, and it shows you are strong willed.
5. Do not group date: Group dating the first 2 or 3 dates are acceptable because you want to be comfortable with the person before you have one on one time. Also a great safety precaution. But no man or woman wants to be with you and your best friend every where you two go. Theres no room for getting to know each other or intimacy. Then the other person has to always bring a friend along for the wing man. Now you have someone all in your business. Just try not to group date, it’s messy.
6.Promises will be broken: When you first start to get to know someone they can tell you they want a relationship or whatever it is. But life changes and so does situations. So be ready for anything. If you know what you want and there is no changing your mind, then ask questions before it gets too deep. No one wants to get hurt especially if you’re just dating.
Dating can be fun or miserable its all up to how you make it out to be. If you don’t put all your eggs in one basket so fast and don’t wear your heart on your sleeve dating can lead you to many possibilities.
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