Ballerific Relationships: Ladies, Men Need You to Raise Your Standards

When I was younger, I was I was an honor roll student from elementary through 9^th grade. As I got older, of course I began to see the world different. There were things I wanted and things I wanted to do and at the time, making the honor roll wouldn’t help me with what I wanted. My mom wasn’t giving me money for each A; meanwhile others in school were flyer than me and getting C’s, D’s and F’s. In my youthful mind this led me to the conclusion that there was no benefit in working hard to make honor roll; I could lower my productivity, get lower grades and still end up with what I would have if I made honor roll. I mean, what’s the point of doing more if I can get the same result doing less? Right?

Before I go on, I want everyone to know this blog IS NOT BLAMING WOMEN, I am simply asking for your help in raising our race up. I liken the mind I had as a child towards school to the mind some men have towards women. “What’s the point of doing more if they get the same result from women doing less?”

Way too many women have extremely low standards when it comes to men. This lack of standards make some men think, “Why do I need to get a job if a woman will take care of me?” Understand this, I am not absolving the men who are like this from being bums, I am asking women to force these types of men to get up and do something. What makes you think a man will ever be a better man for you if you continually allow him to receive all the manly benefits of a relationship without assuming any of the manly responsibilities?

Up until the past few years, the world wasn’t used to men taking a woman with a sexually promiscuous past serious. The problem with this is, the same world will celebrate a woman who gets a man with a sexually promiscuous past to settle down with her. It’s like no matter how much of a whore a man is, he still deserves love but if a woman does the same, she loses all of her value.

Now in no way am I advocating for women to just be whores, because I believe they still have value afterwards, I want you to look at the difference in general standards between men and women. In most cases, a man’s standard will not allow him to deal with a woman that has been with a lot of women. On the other hand, women’s standards are lower. They will still desire a man even after he sleeps with their whole city. What does this do for the psyche of the man? It makes him think he doesn’t have to be pure to find love when he’s ready because women will accept him no matter how filthy his past is.

This is where women’s standards need to be raised. Women need to have prerequisites for dating. When women stop dealing with men because of their negative behaviors, men will have no choice but to become better. Ladies, if you want better from men, don’t settle for anything less. This is not limited to men’s sexual past but also their present and lack of future.

Too many women want a companion so bad they’ll deal with a man with no ambition just to have someone to come home to. All the while missing the reason you’re able to come home to him is because he’s been there all day doing nothing. Ladies stop taking care of these grown men like they’re children. This is not to say you can’t help a man if he’s down but if he doesn’t have any ambition or vision, that isn’t help, that’s bum assistance.

Force these men to have some kind of plan for their future before you let them in your present. Force them to treat you like a woman. Do not lower yourself to a video vixen or reality tv personality, you deserve to be treated like a queen. Stop treating men who don’t treat you like a queen like a king. They will never raise their standards if you don’t raise yours.

As a man I had to raise my standards for who I associate with. I no longer have any dealings with black men who do not take care of their children. This epidemic is too serious and everyone is turning a blind eye to it and no one is holding these men accountable. What makes it even worse is some women will know a man doesn’t take care of his children, still get in a relationship with him and allow him to have another child by her.

Ladies if a man doesn’t take care of his children, treat them how I do: Don’t even speak to them. Make these men have to be better men before they can even converse with you. Force them to have some intelligence, force them to have some respect, force them to have some morals because if you don’t and still give them the cutty, why would they ever change?

Ladies, what are the things you want in a husband? Do you really require those things before dealing with a man? Men are going to meet you at the bar you set. Since the beginning of time men have been trying to impress women. The problem in today’s world is it doesn’t take a lot to impress some women so the men meet them right at that low level. If you’re ok being called a bitch, that’s what you’ll get. If you’re ok getting cheated on, that’s what you’ll get. If you’re ok getting beat, taking care of a man, raising a child on your own, being disrespected, dealing with a man who thinks he’s a rapper etc then that is exactly what you will get until you raise your standards. But this isn’t how it should be. Women need more from our men and our race need more from our men. It’s time we require more from them.

Ladies, I am on a quest to raise the standard for Black Men and I am soliciting your help. Nothing in the world motivates a man to do something more than a woman he’s interested in. Again I am not blaming you for men’s action; I’m asking that you help me get them to change them. If you stop accepting men who refuse to be real men, they will have no choice but to become real men. They will stop living they’re in rap videos and become men suitable to be the husbands you want and the men our race need. But if you continue to keep your standards low, they will continue to be the men you end up complaining about. The ball is in your hands.