“A Letter For Us:The Things He Wont Spell Out”

Men aren’t as complicated as [we] make them out to be. They are very simple creatures and I do mean simple. Right down to what they want for dinner that evening to how they want to be served later on that night. Hope you are following me here ladies. I wont even begin to point the finger at which sex is most complex to deal with, that’s when things get really complicated. But apparently, women sometimes don’t have a clue as to what he’s saying but hasn’t quite verbalized. In a perfect world, we’d love for our guy, our significant other, or even our spouse to communicate as we do but that’s a little far fetched honey. He’s not saying the things that make you happy? He seems a bit detached? Or maybe you both aren’t talking at all and sex is the only time you utter two words to each other. Not to mention, you cant even get off properly because you are in search of what the hell he’s thinking. Bliss has just turned into a complete disaster. And its all because he isn’t talking.

There may be things he’s screaming out to you without words. His actions show it all but try not to let your emotions become the bullhorn that drowns out what he’s trying to say. If this is mind boggling to you then my dear you just haven’t got it yet. Words aren’t always necessary. He doesn’t need to spell everything out, use your common sense! And being that common sense is highly underrated, lets try to refrain from being pushy or pressing him to talk.

There happens to be a little cause and effect for being too pushy: you push and he pulls, you push a little harder and he simply shuts down. Hence, the word simple. Listen to his actions. Men are more like us than we want to believe. What do you do when you’re pissed at him? You shut down and become the mother of monks herself. Our philosophy is pure and simple: “when I’ve stopped talking that’s when you should be worried” that’s code for “you just brought out the bitch in me“. Agree with me or not but it’s the truth, you and I both know it. I’ve always been a believer in the power that communication holds but that non-verbal communication will always be something that tips the scale. It’s the new love language, the language of understanding. I don’t advise for you to consume yourself in his silence but to pay attention to it. Silence opens the door to receiving the message, it give the brain a chance to process and the heart some room to analyze the message itself. No, he wont spell it out, just wait for it.

And lets consider this to be our first come to Jesus meeting with one another. Get ready because we’ve got work to do.

Always,

A.