Checking On Your “Strong” Friend: Why It Matters And How You Can Help

In our friend groups, we all have that one person who seems to have their lives put together and never have a bad day. They’re usually the go-to person for everyone when others need advice, a shoulder to cry on, or a listening ear. As time has progressed, these individuals are now known as the “strong” friends, often being described as “resilient” or “independent.” While it’s easy to admire their toughness, it’s important to remember that these friends are humans and go through real emotions just like the rest of us.

The truth is, your “strong” friend needs support, too, and may be dealing with more than they let on. “Strong” friends often put others and their needs before themselves. For the most part, “strong” friends usually opt to keep their feelings to themselves due to not wanting to be a burden to anyone. To help your friend combat the feeling of loneliness, try making it a habit to have frequent check-ins. Whether you’re making a quick call or visiting them on an off day, establishing this routine will let your friends know that you are there for them no matter what.

Another reason why your “strong” friend may have developed this mindset is because of an image they are trying to uphold. Strength can sometimes be a mask, and your friend may feel they need to maintain a resilient aura during tough times. By reaching out to them, you give your friends a safe space to open up and be their authentic selves. Sometimes, your friend just needs someone to listen to them without judgment. Offer a listening ear and let them vent, as active listening can be incredibly healing to the soul.

Just because someone is strong doesn’t mean they don’t need emotional support from their peers and loved ones. Everyone has a breaking point, and without the right support system, even the toughest person can eventually fold. These individuals may seem like they can handle anything, but that doesn’t mean they don’t need their own personal “strong” friend to provide them with encouragement and practical advice. Remember, be that person for your friends and tell them they are not alone.

Check out our list of ways you can show up for your “strong” friends:

• Encourage self-care
• Provide Realistic Help
• Schedule regular check-ins
• Remind them to be vulnerable
• Be mindful of their needs
• Offer a listening ear
• Create a care package
• Organize a spa day
• Start a shared hobby
• Encourage professional support
• Surprise them with a nice gesture
• Be their accountability partner
• Run errands together
• Help them declutter
• Send them a “thinking of you” card