Dealing With The Person That Takes Everything Personally

I know you probably read the title and thought to yourself, “that doesn’t make sense.” Well, by the time this blog is over I assure you it will.

We all have that friend that we have to handle with care. They’re the type of person that takes everything personally. They become easily offended & take everything to heart.

We all also have friends that we disagree with. No relationship or friendship is without its issues. Most times when we have an issue with a close friend we are able to discuss those issues, hash out our disagreements & move forward as friends. How do you do that with someone who always thinks you’re attacking them?

First, I believe it’s important to pay attention to your tone of voice. With a person who is overly sensitive, raising your voice or unnecessarily cursing can set them off. Then instead of trying to solve a problem, you’ll spend valuable time trying to apologize for hurting their feelings.

Secondly, you want to make sure that you follow every “negative” thing you say with something positive. As much of a pain as dealing with someone like this is, if you value their friendship enough, you’ll go through a little extra to keep them as a friend. This means if you need to reconstruct a sentence by saying  “you’re a great friend, and I understand you’re being nice, but I’m not comfortable with you and my boyfriend talking on the phone,” instead of saying “I don’t trust you so stop calling my boyfriend,” you do what you have to do.

Lastly, if being this persons friend is way too much work than it’s worth for you, it’s okay to distance yourself until they get the hint. Sometimes you just don’t want to go through hoops just to let someone know that you disagree with something they did. Sometimes they aren’t worth it and sometimes no matter what you say, the individual will take offense anyway. Never feel bad for taking the necessary changes in your life. Even if it means removing toxic people from it.