Has someone ever called you selfish out of the blue? And you ask yourself ‘where did that come from’ when you have been damn near their life support.
When someone you know (boyfriend/girlfriend/friend/family member) is used to you coming to their aid no matter how big or small the problem; they’ve come to expect for you to always be their savior. There is nothing wrong with helping out a loved one, but when you always put their needs ahead of yours or you put yourself in a compromising situation to aid them is that being a ‘good’ person or a stupid one? Is sacrificing yourself all the time for the good of another a smart or foolish thing to do?
Personally, I believe you can help another if its within your ability to do so. Furthermore, help those who don’t take advantage of your kindness. I say this because naturally I am a kind person, always looking out. But I started to realize that some of the people I was bending over backwards for were nothing more than leeches sucking the life out of me. So I began to change things around. If you don’t like something change it right? I began to focus more on me and making sure I was okay before anything. As soon as those changes took place, I became the enemy. Interesting isn’t? I thought so too, but this really just proved a point about those people’s characters and their true feelings towards me. I live and I learn.
So, when is it okay to be selfish? When those same people you kill yourself trying to help wouldn’t piss on fire to put you out. When it isn’t within your power to play hero. In a nutshell, when you realize that your life is just as important as theirs. Learn to love yourself before extending that courtesy to others and when the time comes, make sure you choose the members of your circle wisely.
