Ballerific Relationships: How to Get Your Ex Back – blogged by: @proudlylauren

You know that one ex you just can’t seem to get over? No matter how many other people you date, sleep with, or entertain, they don’t touch you the same, listen to you the same, or fill that empty hole burrowing into your heart. Well who said you had to get over them? I know getting an ex back is hard, which is why people use random’s to fill that empty hole, but it’s entirely possible. Keep reading to see how:

• Take it Slow

The beauty of new relationships, is that you never know what the future holds, or what to expect. But when you’re dealing with someone you’ve already been with, its easy to assume what to expect: You already know from you all’s past, about their downfalls, secrets, and flaws, which can take the excitement out of rekindling what you all had. To avoid either of you making that assumption and feeling as if you already know what’s going to happen, take it slow, and learn about each other again, learn what’s changed since you’ve split. Also, be sure not to get comfortable to quick just because you all have history, respect each others space and avoid crowding each other.

• Acknowledge Your Wrong Doings in the Relationship

Something obviously went wrong somewhere along the relationship, and each of you played a specific role. Make sure you acknowledge your part of the relationship’s demise, so they can feel safe that you won’t make the same mistakes. Apart of acknowledging, is apologizing as well; put your pride aside and let them know how truly sorry you are for what you did. The point is to make your ex feel like this time around will be different.

• Forgive and Forget

Just as you played a part in the break-up, so did your ex. So, in addition to asking for forgiveness, you have to give it as well. If they lied to you in the past, cheated, whatever the case may be, you have to let that go. Leading with a free heart, with no burden’s or resentment, is the only way you all can move on with a healthy, functioning relationship. Once you forgive, the past should never be mentioned again, unless its something positive.

• Be Honest About Your Feelings and What You Want

Because you all have a past, it may be easy to fall into things a bit quicker than a normal courtship. No matter how quickly things move, be sure that you are absolutely forthright and straight forward in what you expect from your ex. This will make sure no one is confused, rejected or hurt. If you want that old thing back, let them know just that. 

• Court Them as If You’ve Never Been With Them Before

Just because you won their heart over the first time, doesn’t mean the second time isn’t just as important. All the cute dates, above and beyond gestures, and thoughtfulness, that you used to give them, is even more crucial now. Get creative, do things you all never got the chance to do when you all were together. Show them you are willing to work to get it back, and make them fall in love all over again.

I don’t know about you all, but I’d rather take my chances on someone I love, opposed to jumping person to person, looking for temporary satisfaction. If you think you and your ex breaking up, was just a fluke, follow those above five steps, and you should have that old thing back before you know it.