From A Man’s POV: The Correct Way To Be Jealous

Are you sure you want a man with no kids, a career and his own place? Do you really believe those backrubs, backshots and nights of holding your breath so you don’t scream come without a catch? Can you truly handle the bad that comes with all the good you are looking for?  Some of you are saying, “yes” and you are the group that has never been hurt. The rest of you know that every cloud has a silver lining. All actions stem from fear or love and jealousy is on the fear side. I understand you being afraid with the life threatening diseases out there without a cure it’s only right to be careful. I am going to help you get the truth you are looking for without the pain of being lied to time and time again.

STEP ONE

Don’t ask your single friends for advice, the people who hurt us are often the closest to us. How do you know your man is not cheating with your single friend? Don’t ask your married friends for advice because your man is not their husband and the longer they have been married the more out of the loop they really are.

STEP TWO

If you go through his phone, do not confront him about it. Whenever you confront a liar, you make him a better liar. The best action if you must go through his phone is to keep your findings to yourself so you can continue to use it as a source unbeknownst to him. This will take a tremendous amount of self control because everything in your being will tell you to confront him. But you don’t need a confrontation to get the truth, because you already have the truth. Don’t let a liar’s lie be your truth, the evidence is a better witness of character.

STEP THREE

Don’t have an attitude. If you start giving your man the silent treatment and avoiding his touch he will know that you know something. Just pretend it’s all good until you decide you have had enough. People are instinctual and not all of us have the moral fiber to make the right decisions, so telling him you caught him won’t change his ways. All you will get is another lie to perpetuate your false sense of peace.

STEP FOUR

Pay attention to his friends. I guarantee you that one of your man’s friends want to smash you. He watches your legs when your back is turned. He can’t look at you without smiling. He steals a glimpse of your beautiful face when he thinks you are not looking and all he wants to do is be a better man for you. He will also snitch on your man in a heart beat. If you are a classy lady you should hook him up with your friend and collect information indirectly through her. If you are a promiscuous girl, you are already a mastermind of mind control and need no further instruction.

STEP FIVE

Every situation is different. Don’t be controlling and overtly nosy about every interaction your man has with others. You will never get to the truth if you think you already know it. Instead set traps, for example don’t let your man meet all your friends. Have friends that he does not know so they can be where he is without you being implicated. Your friends are your extra set of eyes.

STEP SIX

Don’t explain yourself. When you have gathered enough information and decide to leave abruptly he will pretend not to know why. Don’t explain because all he is going to do is lie, deny then apologize. Trust is very important in all relationships and raising a child by yourself is not as glorious as people try to make it seem. You need to know for sure that you aren’t in a dead in relationship with a deadbeat. Get the facts then react. If you are jealous without warrant you look crazy or traumatized by an ex. Don’t be the lunatic who is adamant about things you cannot prove. Know for sure what you are feeling and don’t let your emotion succumb to lies and promises of a better future. Emotion is guilt so if he raises his voice declaring his innocence, know that he is lying. But you don’t need to know that because you won’t ask him. You have heard enough apologies and you deserve to be happy.