Why Playing The Game Works

When dealing with men, you cant bend the rules, you have to create them and follow them at your own will. It seems like the more you try to cut corners, the results aren’t too pretty. Here’s what I mean: You give it up too soon and he becomes inconsistent just as quickly as you dropped your panties. Its like immediately he switches the game up so far left that you forgot just how impressed you were all of ten minutes ago. Before the sudden switch-up he was the one, he was on his way to being bae and “New Boo, Who Dis?” was about to go into full effect. Girl, Its like this, you give them rope and they hang themselves and if you gave them a bit more they‘d try to hang you too. As much as you want to believe that you don’t have to play the game with this guy, it becomes more evident that you have to play same hard defense you had to play with you last starting player who has now become a benchwarmer along with rest who didn’t make the cut.

Yeah, those things we’re clearly supposes to do for the first 90 days, it works for a while and somewhere down the line we fall off and start liking him and give him a little of that rope we discussed early on. No calling first, when he calls let it go to voicemail a few times, tell him your too busy and whatever you do don’t be available, show him that the chase is real; all that stuff worked until you messed up and fell for him. Ladies we have got in the habit of doing this part ass backwards, we do this after we’ve let our guards down. This happens to be the easiest way to fall off of your game and they know it. Its like you forfeited the game, you let him win because you in fact didn’t show up to play. Now you’re at home wondering where did you go wrong. The key is that once you get in the game never be too easy on your opponent, you get in and play hardball until the end….. You may be saying to yourself “seriously, who in the hell really has time for this?” I know, I know. But Ladies lets all come into agreement that we have to play a game to be in a relationship. There, we said it. Not to mention, when we do decide to play the game with them we play it pretty damn good. Men seem to find a thrill in this. He want to see if you can beat him at his own game. This is what they consider to be the chase, the cat and mouse game, and the thing that makes him choose you. She who plays until the end, wins him over. He believes that this shows your strength and that you are the catch. In his mind he believes that this makes you different than the rest, and for once he’s right. I hate to sound so insensitive but this is the way you have to treat every frog you may kiss on your way to meeting Mr.Right. And even then, its still a game that you have to play to keep him.

I cant begin to count how many times I’ve said “I don’t want to play the game” and still found myself playing that same game. Yet still something within me believes that my soulmate wont be interested in these sorts of antics but based off of past situations, I can never be too sure. I understand that I must treat each man as a rookie, play hardball and guard my heart. Some may call it a cycle, and some may look at it as insanity or like most, viewing and respecting it as the game we all play over and over to find love. And if love is truly what you want, my advice is to play hard and win because love always wins.