Let’s Talk: Have You Ever Friend Zoned The Wrong Guy/Girl?

The worst feeling is being friend zoned by someone that you are attracted to. If you were placed there, that clearly means the other person wasn’t into you the same way you were. But what happens when you have placed the wrong person in the friend zone?

At the time you placed them in the friend zone, it’s possible they didn’t have their sh*t together or you just thought that the two of you were just better off as friends. There has been many times where you are just not into someone and you won’t even give them a second take.

Now that they are in a relationship and you see how they interact with someone else, you begin to second guess your decision . It’s only natural to think, “Damn, Did I just Friend zone the wrong person?”

On one hand, you may tell yourself that the person is better off with someone else. That way, you don’t run the risk of compromising your friendship. But, on the other hand, you’ve opened up to someone that holds a special place in your heart. You’ve found someone who is your other half, your best friend and loves you despite your faults. Now, you’re stuck.

Is it selfish of you to want to pursue a relationship with your friend? Is it bad that you want to take things a step further, even after you decided to keep things platonic? Are you wrong for willing to risk your friendship for your lusty desires? Or is it love? How can you be so sure?

As all of these thoughts consume your mind, your insides are on the verge of combustion. You get butterflies at the thought of your friend and you realize, you’ve officially crossed the line and there’s no going back. But, how do you approach the situation? Your friend now has another person in their life. Someone you have kicked it with on several occasions, as your friend tells her, ‘she’s just a friend.’

You’ve officially become that girl. You are the girl that he said not to worry about and everything you hated about a dude and his “best friends,” is everything that you’ve become. You hate yourself for it. But, you love him more. Do you do it? Do you risk it all? Do you go for the kill?

Always. Life is about taking risks. At the end of the day, you can’t help who you love and it’s better to live your life full of ‘why nots’ then wondering what would have happened if you took that risk. If your friend is really your friend, there is a chance that you too can work through the weird stage if it doesn’t work out between you too. Now, I’m not suggesting that you go out and wreck a happy home, but if you feel a way and need to let it be known, there is always a classy and respectful way to express yourself. Keep it cute. Keep it classy and say it with your chest.