It’s no secret that a good portion of women, if not all, have dealt with bullsh*t and consequently, they have been either labeled “insecure” or categorized as having “trust issues.” The thing is maybe, just maybe the problem isn’t these females and their perceived issues. Maybe the problem is the men and their actions that awaken that type of behavior.
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What I mean by that is when you trust someone, they never have to prove to you they are trustworthy. When they say or do things, it adds up. It’s not a connect the dots or make it make sense type thing.
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He isn’t walking away to answer phone calls. He isn’t keeping you or the relationship a secret. Private? Yes, but a secret, no. There aren’t unsaved numbers is his phone nor are their randoms calling. He isn’t flaking last minute and blaming sleep. He is behaving and acting like a man should, at least one that wants to build with you.
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What typically occurs is that said man does things that just don’t add up. You are told you are insecure, if you question his actions. You have trust issues because your spidey senses are telling you that 2:30 am text from Candy is more than just a time zone mishap. Now on any given day 2+2 = 4, but today he wants you to believe that sh*t is 22. And when you don’t, you have the label as having trust issues or being insecure.
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Listen. There is nothing wrong with you. If sh*t isn’t adding up, it isn’t adding up. You aren’t insecure and you don’t have trust issues. The bull isn’t aligning with your common sense. Plain and Simple. You recognize the red flags and question them. His response is to manipulate the system. He wants to play to your doubt and make it seem as if you have the issue when it’s his inability to be honest. Don’t fall for it. It’s his f*ckboy tendencies that aren’t adding up, not your right to question them.
