Thou Shall Satisfy Thy Self

By: @A_sheWrites

I’ve been known to discuss things that women don’t always talk about openly, like the things that are done in secrecy. The things [we] have a hard time confessing to our closest girlfriends. Those things that could only be told by the walls in your bedroom, if only they had eyes to see and lips to talk. So here goes nothing. Quite some time ago, I was dating a nice guy, well we we’re having more great dates than we were having great sex. Truth is, he worked hard, tirelessly to try and satisfy me and he just wasn’t cutting it. I must admit that I’m a tough act to follow in and out of the bedroom. It’s just something magical in the way I toss my hips. Nevertheless, I show no mercy, If a guy cant keep up then I will send him on his way until I feel he’s mustered up enough strength to endure a night of passion with me. But with this guy, I tried to be a bit more understanding and assuming that he worked endless late nights as an accountant and was 12 years my senior, he just wasn’t equipped with the same amount of stamina as this young stallion. I would get so bored with him, I would dread him asking me to ride him due to the fact that I just may start to laugh hysterically as I watch the sweat beads form onto his forehead or burst into tears because I couldn’t believe that I was about to settle for a good man who happened to perform horribly. I felt like I was about to be robbed of my youth and what came along with it. It was simply a lose-lose situation that soon altered our relationship. And every time he released himself, I was grateful that it was over. He would actually get up, chest poked out, gloating in his glory as if he had done something. Even insisting that I get up and cook him a late night breakfast as if he earned it. And I was OVER IT!

One night, I guess I had taken every ounce of life that he had left inside of him because he didn’t roll over and talk me to death about Lord knows what, nor did he get up to prance around, stinking up the room with his cocky attitude, this time he was sound asleep. Thank God! Now what I did next, I’m not sure if you ladies will agree with this or not but I’m leaving that up to you. I got myself off without him. Yes, I pleasured myself next to him, by my damn self. And might I add this happened to be the most peaceful time that he and I had spent together over the course of our relationship. I have to be honest, I was scared as hell. I didn’t know if he would wake up and be upset because if I was a man and I caught my girl rubbing it out after I had given her everything I thought I had inside of me, I would be livid! But that wasn’t the case, he stayed asleep and I was just praying that he wouldn’t wake up and try to get involved in this rendezvous I was having with myself. And it was a damn good time. I left myself breathless and feeling all brand new. I said to myself “ What the hell do we need them for anyways.” That night I went to bed a happy woman, I think I might even let him cuddle up on me just a little. I had ridden myself of the disgust I had towards him because, if only I could continue to do this after each time we had sex then it would keep the relationship going. Well that’s what I thought. But it became a habit, I would find myself getting off by myself after every round. I had gotten so comfortable that I wouldn’t care if he was sleep or not. Hell, It became so much of a habit that even after he and I weren’t seeing one another anymore, I would do it with the other guys I was seeing at the time who could get me off but not to my liking. Now lets back up a moment, I don’t have a sexual addiction, I just happen to know my body thus, sending me into convulsions and providing me multiple orgasms is exactly what I look for.

Guys would think of this as some type of shameful act, putting women under all types of scrutiny for simply pleasuring themselves. They’d automatically assume that the woman is a sex addict because she has a man lying beside her with a penis. They’d most certainly feel a little embarrassed and a little angry. He’d believe that you are envisioning another man and or that you’re cheating. So not the case. Well damnit if the shoe fits wear it! Women catch their men jerking off to all types of porn and we get bent out of shape because we don’t think we are doing our jobs. My advice is to do what is satisfying to you, and if that means pleasuring yourself after he’s done then do so. And if he decides to wake up due to the sounds of your vibrator or the sound of you moans then its time for you two to have a discussion about what you like, how you like and how he’s missing the mark.