5 Things To Expect in an Interracial Relationship

5 Things to Expect in an Interracial Relationship

By: Destinee A. Hughes

Admit it; we’ve all had second thoughts about that cute white boy who winked at us in the grocery line, or that sexy trainer who kind of resembles the 1998 version of Brad Pitt.  I know I have – more than once. You can’t convince me Channing Tatum, Liam Hemsworth and Ryan Gosling aren’t heaven sent.

There’s absolutely no reason to be ashamed about liking men from different races, especially white men.  For some reason society has somehow convinced us that dating outside our race is the biggest stigma since Olivia Pope and Fitz (temporarily) broke up. Luckily more people are beginning to broaden their dating pool and are becoming more comfortable mingling   outside their race. With celebs like Eve and Maximillion Cooper, Tamera and Adam Housely and Zoe Saldana and pretty much everyone she’s ever dated, interracial dating is finally becoming the new norm. Interracial relationships – just like all relationships, requires a lot of work, but potentially falling in love is worth the risk right? I think so. With that being said, here are five things to expect in an interracial relationship:

1. Strange Looks From Strangers-

   As beautiful as interracial dating is, many people haven’t socially accepted the idea of different races canoodling with each other.  So be prepared to be gawked at, for both positive and negative reasons. Onlookers will either be delighted to see a beautiful couple or they’ll be throwing so much shade Rihanna’s bright diamonds couldn’t shine. So odd looks, disapproving stares and envious eyes will probably be the first noticeable gesture about interracial relationships.  But please, pleaaaase don’t get discouraged, you never know if one of those envious sets of eyes are looking at you with a sense of inspiration rather than disapprovement.

2. Questions About Your Hair –

   I’m Black. That statement alone says a lot about my hair. I thoroughly embrace my lovely versatile strands. I have the option of straightening my hair one day, wearing it curly the next and maybe adding a few bundles of 18 inch Malaysian body wave when I’m feeling extra “fawncy” *dramatic hair flip. However, though black women are very familiar with the versatility of their hair, a lot of other races aren’t. I can guarantee you Billy from down the street is still scratching his head trying to figure out how Beyoncé grew out her pixie cut so fast. So tantalizing questions and vividly visual explanations about length, texture, and the complete sew-in process can definitely be expected.

3. Culturally Curious Conversations-

   A lot of people experience different cultures through media and media only – which is sad, but realistic. It’s easy to assume that black people like; chicken, watermelon, rap music and fighting, I mean that’s what’s portrayed on TV right? So don’t get offended when your new beau buys you “NWA’s Greatest Hits” album, just calmly explain to him that you’re more of a Celine Dion type of girl. Dating interracially is a learning experience, so leave the stereotypes in the past and walk into this relationship with an open mind; because it’s highly likely you guys have more in common than you think.

4. The Motion of The Ocean-

   Ahh, the controversial stereotype of black men and their Mandingo sized ____ ß fill in the blank. I’ve come across many men who are intimidated to date black women because of the insecurity that they will not be able to please them. But contrary to popular belief, pleasing a woman has nothing to do with the size of your manhood. Passion, sensuality and a frequent appetite is what pleases a woman. So when your man is a little discouraged about his performing techniques, just remind him that it’s not about the size of the boat but the motion of the ocean.

5. A Great Time –

   Dating interracially is truly a life changing experience. You’ll become more cultured, experiencing different ethnicities first handily. You’ll become more confident, because you’ll learn how to silence all of the negative comments from others and focus on your happiness. And most importantly, you’ll broaden your chances in finding true love. Despite what critics say, love has no color, only an intense feeling towards another person. Even if you don’t end up marrying interracially it’ll be an experience worth having.

   With all that being said, dating interracially is certainly something to consider when looking for a relationship. White/Spanish/Indian/Greek guys are just as curious as you. So next time you think about walking away from the cutie in the grocery line, take a moment to realize that you could be walking away from your soul mate.

   Popular Interracial Couples

   Halle Berry and Oliver Martinez

   Janet Jackson and Wissam Al Mana

   Naomi Campbell and Vladislav Doronin

   Iman and David Bowie

   Paula Patton and Robin Thicke

   Zoe Saldana and Marco Perego

   Tamera Mowry and Adam Housley

   Garcelle Beauvais and Mike Nilon

   Eve and Maximillion Cooper

   Alfre Woodward and Rodrick Spencer

   Grace Hightower and Robert De Niro