“Aint No Mystery: Why Men Don’t Call First After Good Sex”

To all the women of America who is freaking out because she has yet to get that call from “him” after that incredible sex; relax, squeeze those Kegel muscles girl and RELAX. Oh, and remember not to hold your breath because the waiting game could last just as long as the Trojan war itself! The battle wont be an easy one depending on who calls first, then it becomes the battle within yourself. Who wins or who loses? The first thing a woman thinks is “He really isn’t that into me” just because he didn’t call after you both just high-fived each other following those blissful rounds.

Did it ever occur to you that he doesn’t want to seem pressed or that he had to sit and gather his own thoughts on how you’ve just blown his mind? Nope. Well, according to New York times Bestselling author, Sherry Argov of Why Men Love Bitches; “ Before sex, a man isn’t thinking clearly and a woman is thinking clearly. After sex, it reverses. The man is thinking clearly and the woman isn’t.” Its true, he and his ego are top of the world after his big release, he’s gloating, feeling like the man of the year. And you, you’ve let your emotions set in, somewhere moping. Don’t assume the worst yet. I mean its not always about you being his side chick or his jump-off, its just a guy thing. You want to keep things between the two of you platonic and on good terms right? Then give the man some space. You’ll get double the points for this.

Now let’s flip the script. The second that you aren’t the one being typical, calling and blowing up his inbox then you’ve given him something to think about. You’ve got him wondering if he put it down good enough and maybe just maybe you are too busy to call because you’ve been bragging to your girls about the rendezvous. He’s currently caught up in deciphering your motives. Now he feels all dirty and used like Eddie Murphy in Boomerang after Robin Givens smashed and passed. Now you’re the reigning queen! Pat yourself on the back.

I was given some feedback from guys who were willing to give their opinions on why they don’t hit up first and it was really enlightening. Several guys said that they do call first just to see if she enjoyed it, another guy said that he never calls because he isn’t big on talking on the phone and the others said that they wait for her to call because this lets him know if she’s really feeling him. What I got from this was they are insecure, egotistical and afraid of rejection. These guys usually have no concrete answer as to why they don’t call first after some bomb ass sex. Its just a guy thing, so if he doesn’t call you first just wait on it and relax.