Are Black Men The Only Ones To Degrade Their Own Race?

I started a discussion last week by saying “Black men are worst than the KKK in terms of their treatment of Black Women.” It started an uproar but let me tell you, several black men ended up proving me right. Although I clarified that I was referring to some and not ALL black men, and these individuals clarified they couldn’t read, they used this as an opportunity to call me out my name and attempt to bash me. Indeed proving my point. Do you know what the worst part about it was? These men weren’t defending themselves against the allegations that they mistreat black women on a daily basis. Oh no! They were saying “Don’t compare us to the KKK!” Really guys? That’s all you took from that statement? 

Well let me take this as an opportunity to sit these black men down and school them. Using the KKK as an example may seem over-exxagerated to you, but sometimes it is the wake up call you need. What the KKK was doing to our ancestors physically, many black men have decided to do to their black women mentally and emotionally. The abuse so many black women have to take from black men is ridiculous. If her hair isn’t the “right” length or texture, she’s dogged. If her skin isn’t the “right” shade of light, she’s dogged. Meanwhile these same men have “nappy” dark skinned mothers who sacrificed to raise them. Seems a bit ungrateful if you ask me. Everyday black women are reminded of what we can’t do right. Never reminded of how we helped free slaves, how we hold a household together or how we marched for the rights that we didn’t even get to take advantage of. Doesn’t matter what the black woman does, it seems she is always the black man’s enemy. 

This goes deeper than who men choose to date. I’ve said this a million times. Date and be with who you love, no matter the race. I’m an advocate for interracial dating and I’m attracted to men of all nationalities. What I HAVE noticed though is that other races of men do not date me then dog their own race. Ever! A commenter on Instagram made the comment below and I couldn’t agree more:

When did it become okay for the black man to emotionally scar the black woman and think it was acceptable? Who hurt you so badly that you feel it’s necessary to resent everything that black woman is, while subsequently attempting to turn every “non black” girl you meet into a black girl? The KKK comment I made was extreme, but it was proven within minutes. Black men will DOG black women, allow non-black women to DOG black women, but the minute a black woman points it out she is “sensitive,” it’s “all jokes,” she’s “hurt”. How about we’re just tired of being the butt of your jokes and the object of your segregation?

A friend, who happens to a be a black male told me, “It’s not a black man’s strong suit to admit flaws/shortcomings. Being defensive is the instinctive response.” and for that reason I don’t expect a lot of black men to admit the error in what they are doing. I just ask that you guys think about it and hopefully use this as an opportunity to do better. The KKK hung, raped and burned us at the stake. You are doing the same to us emotionally. What makes it worse? It’s coming from HOME. From our black sons & brothers etc.