Are You Mrs. Right or Are You Mrs. Right Now?

– blogged by: @uniquely_humble

I remember a friend telling me that a man will accept a woman with less to offer if she allowed him to be himself and wouldn’t try to change him. I had to look at him with four eyes because I thought he was crazy. Who doesn’t want a woman to push him into greatness or support him with his dreams? He began to tell me that he has dated doctors, lawyers, and pharmacists but always became bored in the middle of the relationship. I’m not sure if he was bored with structure, intellect, or the fact that he had an equal, but he felt as though the sex wasn’t the same. The relationship required more work with the right one, and he always went back to Mrs. Right Now. He explained that a woman’s attitude would overall affect the relationship that she had with men.

We all have flaws, but there are some things that one simply cannot tolerate in relationships, especially if you’re looking for Mrs. Right. You have the nagger, the passive aggressive woman, and the bossy one with the attitude to choose from. It’s best to have a clear idea of what you’re searching for out in the dating world before you get stuck with Mrs. Right Now. Not all bachelors are looking for the right woman, however. Some are completely content with what Mrs. Right Now brings to the table because they have the upper hand.

Let’s describe the two. Mrs. Right comes with a few sacrifices fellas. She not tolerating the antics or supporting ideas that make no sense, and you must have your life in order. She will have her perspective, standards, and morals and although she may accept you for who you are, you have to come to the table prepared. She’s able to pull off last minute deals in the office, work two jobs, raise a family, and have enough letters behind her last name to start her own business. You don’t have to worry about Mrs. Right because she’s the ideal mom and provider.

Many mistake Mrs. Right as not being bold or sexy enough, not realizing that she’s really the woman of your dreams. She can be open–minded in the bedroom and still cook Sunday dinner for the family. If you have patience and share your needs and preferences with her, she will cater to your every whim. She’ll do the same things as Mrs. Right Now sexually if she is inspired to do so. She may get on your nerves at times, but the end results will be well worth it.

Mrs. Right Now is quite the contrary. She comes with no baggage or standards. You may only know her by her Instagram name but she’s completely okay with that as longs as you take care of her basic needs (i.e. nails, hair, shoes, and handbags). She’s not a control freak, but she’s on borrowed time so she can care less what you do in your spare time. The less she complains about, the longer she has a position and she’s aware of it. She’s open to just about everything because she’s not used to quality men. She won’t be a control freak and will allow you to float in and out of her life at your convenience.

The only time I see Mrs. Right losing to Mrs. Right Now is because of a man’s insecurities or lack of commitment. Although Mrs. Right Now is temporary, she relieves the pressure of life. She not asking him about goals, business, family or personal development but she’s up now. Ladies don’t become discourages, Mr. Right will come and sweep you off of your feet in due time. Never settle and if he requires less of a woman, he doesn’t deserve you.