August 25th Is National Kiss and Make Up Day; Here’s Why You Should Consider Letting Go of Grudges

Are you having trouble letting go of a grudge against a distant friend or lover?  Use National Kiss and Make Up Day to start the process of forgiveness. 

August 25th commemorates National Kiss and Make Up Day.  Its origins are unknown, with multiple people being credited with its creation.  Still, the purpose of this unofficial holiday is clear: resolve conflicts and mend relationships with those you care about.  Kiss and Make Up Day can be a fresh start for romantic partnerships or friendships.  Either way, releasing animosity toward what you’ve been holding on to can not only improve your mental health but may also have positive effects on you physically.

“Living in a chronic state of tension disables your body’s repair mechanisms, increasing inflammation and the stress hormone cortisol in the body.  Forgiveness engages the parasympathetic nervous system, which helps your immune system function more efficiently and makes room for feel-good hormones like serotonin and oxytocin,” explained Angela Buttimer, MS, NCC, RYT, LPC, a licensed psychotherapist at Thomas F. Chapman Family Cancer Wellness at Piedmont.

No matter if it’s a minor disagreement you’ve been dealing with the after-effects of or a long-standing feud, this day is an opportunity to extend an olive branch and make amends once and for all.  Depending on the nature of the conflict and those involved, there are various ways to commemorate this unofficial holiday.  If possible, initiate an open and honest conversation, even if you haven’t spoken with the person in a while. 

Prolonged distance can often allow for awkward interactions.  Therefore, some might have a hard time articulating their feelings in person or over the phone.  Writing a letter or sending a thoughtful social media message can be a helpful alternative.  Even throwing in a digital gift card or sending flowers can also help convey sincerity, especially if you were in the wrong. 

In the end, the day is about putting peace and understanding first and making sure that any unresolved conflicts are handled with kindness and love, if possible.  Here are a few make up songs to give you an extra boost. 

Al Green – “Let’s Stay Together”

John Legend – “Ordinary People”

The Carters – “Friends”

SZA – “20 Something”

The Jackson 5 – “I’ll Be There”