niksofly

I don't write to appease those that are unsure of themselves. I write to create a space for thought and conversation.

“Pick Me” And Its Toxicity With Black Women

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There is an unwritten code that you have to automatically subscribe to the same ideologies as all Black women because you are a woman and Black. Not doing so garners you the label of “pick me.” Recently that term has received its colonized legs and been all over social media. …

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Ballerific Finances: What To Do With Your Tax Refund

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Tax season is in full effect. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Somehow Uncle Sam slipped up and blessed them with extra funds. In actuality, that’s not the case. Most people overpay in taxes by improperly filling out their tax documents for employment and not claiming all their deductions. So technically, this money isn’t extra …

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What I’m Not Going To Do Is Beg Or Chase Your Dumb Ass

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People love to use the word “want” and “love” loosely. It’s trendy just like that “sis” and “sissy” sh*t females  say  just because others are saying it. What does it mean to “want” someone or to “love” them? Very few really know because they are too busy “trending” and not …

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Are You A Conspiracy Theorist?

Are you a conspiracy theorist

In this day and age, we act so woke that we are often blinded by the obvious or neglect to enjoy the present. Those actions make one wonder if many are conspiracy theorists. Is there more to life and situations than what may meet the eye? Yes. Does this make …

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Honestly, Truly, I Don’t Give AF

The art of not giving AF is to truly be conscious of who you are as an individual, where you have been and where you plan to go. Many will claim to give zero f*cks but will be the first to pay attention to what society says. And that my …

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Don’t Let Patriarchy F*ck Your Life

Society has a way of manipulating us. By us I mean women. We’re taught that “ladies are seen and not heard”, “mind our manners”, we must “stay down and endure hell” and that our worth is somehow equated to being married. We are drilled to be these passive, nonsexual creatures …

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Tell Me Who You Loyal To…

The word loyalty is overused and widely misused. Toxic individuals use it as a tool to manipulate others into believing they have to remain in stagnant relationships, while most of us use the word to dictate the tone of our exchanges with the world. The reality is that loyalty is so …

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Five Reasons You’re Getting Coal For Christmas

It’s that time of year when Santa makes a list and he’s checking it twice. Many hope that their name makes St. Nick’s nice list. However, despite vigorous efforts to get gifts, it remains that coal is a very real possibility. Realistically, those in your life may not be in …

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4 Days Before Christmas I Bought My Man Some Shoes

⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ There is this old saying that if you buy a man shoes he will walk out of your life. At first glance, this seems to be right on the money because I’ve witnessed many women go beyond the call of duty for their man, only for him to leave …

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6 Days Before Christmas My Baby Gave Me Gifts That He Scammed Using Someone Else’s Credit Card

Could you date a man that breaks the law to keep you fresh? That’s a question that a lot of younger women are asking themselves and the answer is more obvious than many make it seem. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The real question is why are we placing such value on materialistic things? …

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Ballerific Kicks: Puma Suede Gets Iconic Colors For 50th Anniversary

The Puma Suede celebrates its 50th anniversary with the release of the “Made in Japan” collector series. Crafted with premium suede, this #Clyde silhouette features the iconic colors of the #LosAngeles #Lakers. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀Dropped in purple, the monotony is broken with yellow Puma trademark on the side panel. Featuring three lace …

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