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niksofly

I don't write to appease those that are unsure of themselves. I write to create a space for thought and conversation.

10 Things That Make Black Culture Unique

If you don’t know, let me be the first to tell you. Being black is one of the dopest things that could have happened to me. It’s straight awesomeness. Our culture is woven with a rich legacy and history. We are resilient AF and not to mention, we can turn …

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The Act Of Jealousy Is Just That- An Act

Sometimes we get caught up with people’s shenanigans that we neglect to see the obvious. We date guys who barely do the bare minimum. They aren’t fully committed, yet we find their jealousy act to be cute or an extension of his true deeper feelings for us. Nah sis, it’s …

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The Acceptant Nature of Blacks

As long as blacks can get an apology or leave it in God’s hands, then whatever tribulation comes our way will be minimized. We have that acceptant and forgiving nature.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I watched my mother be denied care and literally bleed to death before my eyes. Her soul bled out before …

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The Best Platforms For Online Dating

In today’s world, we want everything convenient and at our disposal. Whether it’s how we ingest news, continue our education, or even how we shop; one thing is for sure, it must be easy and fast. The same can be said about dating. While some of us are traditional happenstance …

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Let’s Talk: Can You Change A Man?

  ⠀⠀⠀⠀ In the illustrious words of my incredibly wise mother, “You can’t change a man you deal with, but you can most definitely change THE man you deal with”. I’m going to let that sink in for a minute. I once was foolish enough to believe that I could …

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Emotional Abuse Will Destroy You And The Relationship

  When we think of an abusive relationship, most of us often think of one where one party physically assaults the other. Do we ever think about mental and emotional abuse? We place this light on domestic violence and its physical implications, but fail to understand the long term effects …

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Let’s Talk: Is The 30- Day Sex Rule Necessary?

Back in the day, sex was this huge taboo thing and all “respectable” women waited until marriage. Those who couldn’t , had some parameters thus women had the infamous probationary period. As women have become more sexually liberated over the decades, more have steered clear of celibacy , abstinence and …

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Blacks Can’t Protest Sh!t

  ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It’s quite humorous and enraging in the same breath that the very “thing” soldiers have died and fought for has limitations to a certain demographic- blacks. Millions have sacrificed for our freedoms, but when you’re black those freedoms have parameters. You see, blacks can’t protest shhh. In fact, …

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Why Is The Responsibility Put On Women To Keep Their Mate?

⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Earlier this year, I was driving with my friend, gossiping and catching up, when he saw his uncle outside in the neighborhood. It had been some years since the two had seen each other and he had no idea how close his uncle stayed. After the expected formalities and …

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Let’s Talk: Are Your Sibling’s Friends Off Limits?

⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When I saw this assignment, I laughed a robust laugh because I’m in this predicament as we speak. My youngest sibling is seven years my senior. By all accounts he can not be my father, but my brother swears he is. And for majority of my life, I’ve given …

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