– blogged by: @thebuzzwithb The Situationship. You know that place beyond friends with benefits but below a relationship, but it feels like a relationship because you do relationship-like activities. There is no title, so you have no say so in the other person’s affairs, but you’d still feel some type …

Sure, we ladies like being noticed.  It’s not the sole reason we get dressed and step out of the house, but some attention, when done right, can brighten our day and even score you those magical 7 digits. Unfortunately, a lot of men seem to be doing it all wrong, …

The week leading up to your period is a monthly experience that affects all vagina-having human beings differently. Some women breeze through the week prior like it’s nothing. Some women feel more tired than normal, and get a few extra pimples. Some experience bloating and back pain. Some ladies feel …

We are all guilty of it, ladies. The blame game. Blaming him for everything. He strung me along for 67 months. He cheated on me 1738 times. He’s been lying to me for all of the 11 years that I’ve sacrificed. He does this to me. He does that to …

No matter how many ducks you have lined up in the row, there is no way to avoid the trials and tribulations of life. At some point, something or someone will affect you so deeply, you may question everything you ever knew. It’s a dark and lonely place to be …

You gave him your attention and your focus. You answered phone calls and replied to texts in a timely manner. You gave him clear signs you were interested. You even briefly deactivated your Tinder account for this man. He was attentive and seemed to be interested as well, but he …

The process of finding “the one” is a daunting task to say the least. The older you get, and the longer you’ve trekked through the arduous journey to find love, the less energy you have  to continue on. You don’t necessarily want to be single, especially through the rapidly decreasing …

You thought you did everything right. You’ve kept your standards high and you’ve always been selective with your sexual partners. You’ve never willingly been a side chick or smashed any of the homies. You learned to cook, and do so well. You’ve mastered being a lady in the streets and …

There’s a myth that women cannot maintain healthy friendships for long periods of time. I’m always seeing memes and quotes and hearing other women talk about their failed homegirl horror stories. There’s an idea that women are just too catty and put too much focus on piffling issues to keep …

Your wedding day. The day you’ve dreamed of since you were a little girl. You’ve already reserved bridesmaid spots for all of your besties and have mentally locked in the color scheme. The details of the decor are clear in your imagination, from the centerpieces that will adorn the tables …

You only went over to his place this late because you’re really interested in him. You already know he’s not the type of guy who is going to plan a real date. He’s made it clear he doesn’t believe in traditional dating. Although you’re the type of woman who does, …

If you Google “Should I pursue a guy?” 98.99999% of the information tells you to do the exact opposite – don’t do it, don’t try it, don’t even think about it, honey. You’ll push him away. You’ll seem needy. You’ll emasculate him. Just let the man come to you and …

Before I begin, let me give this disclaimer – I am not speaking to those men who actually take the time to form a full sentence and a proper greeting to approach a woman. You are appreciated and I salute you. I am talking about actual harassment. This post is …

“You’re my little secret and that’s how we should keep it. It’s on everybody’s mind, about you and I, they think so but they don’t really know.” – Xscape For the babies, those lyrics come from “My Little Secret,” a classic 90’s song which tells a tale of two lovers …

Baller Alert recently posted a story on Aaron Slator, the now former President of Content and Ad Sales for AT&T who was terminated from his high level position after 30 years for sending a meme with an African child captioned “It’s Friday, N****s!” via text. As I read through the …

You can’t just lump everything and everyone into a single category. That’s completely ridiculous and impossible. Life is one massive gray area. If there is still a debate on whether a tomato is a fruit or a vegetable, how in the world can you categorize something as complex as other …

In the social media age, there can be a strong temptation to post every detail of your life for the world to see. Most of us have taken a picture or written tweet and in the moment before pressing the send button, reevaluated and decided against it. Most of us …

Every woman has a checklist of criteria she wants her future mate to possess. The classic ‘good guy’ type: Mature. Attentive. Spiritual. Financially stable. Affectionate. Family oriented. Tall. Good looking.  Funny. I could literally go on and on (and most of our lists do). On paper, it sounds like we …

The recently released and highly anticipated film based on the book by E L James, “50 Shades of Grey” has brought about much controversy to say the least. One of the most highly debated topics has been the idea of submission, particularly a woman submitting to a man. The Dictionary.com …

We all heard the excerpt of novelist Chimamanda Ngozi’s speech sampled in Beyonce’s song “Flawless.” She defined feminist as “a person who believes in the social, political and economic equality of the sexes.” Although this definition and clean, crisp, and to the point, many women still seem to be hesitant …