Ballerfic Relationships: Girl, He Ain’t Worth Shhhhhhh….

Why are women more likely than men to give chance after chance?  Why do we tend to stay in relationships that we know are detrimental despite the advice of our loved ones?  Why do we continue to run back to the very people who hurt us in the first place?

We’ve all either been there ourselves or witnessed a friend stomach an unhealthy relationship with a man who DEFINITELY wasn’t worth the chaos or pain he caused.  Well, to be honest, no man really is.  Romantic relationships are supposed to be positive overall.  They’re not supposed to be plagued with infidelity, lying, betrayal, or narcissism, but rather loyalty, faithfulness, selflessness, and love.  Relationships aren’t perfect and people make mistakes.  I understand that, but a mistake turns into a CHOICE once it is repeated.

More times than not, we as women are TRULY aware when “bae” doesn’t deserve us and what we have to offer, yet we still stick around.  Why is that?  Why do we continue to put up with BS when we know for a fact that if a friend of ours came to us seeking advice regarding a relationship identical to the one we are enduring, we’ll be quick to say, “LET HIM GO.”  Hypocrisy at its finest!

To say that all women fail to leave for the same reasons would be foolish.  Reasons vary from person to person and that would need an article of its’ own.  What I can say though is that when you’re a REAL Ballerific Woman, you recognize your value and will part ways with those who don’t, even if it hurts to do so.  You can’t honestly think you’re going to have a relationship like Jay-Z and Beyoncé when you’re dealing with “Wiz Khalifa” or “Stevie J.”  Ladies, if your man sounds anything like the following then understand he’s not worth sh**.

1. Pathological liar.  Who wants to be lied to, let alone when you already know the truth? Men who lie constantly are definitely battling something intrinsically, but that’s sure as hell not an excuse.  Liars are cowards, for they lack the courage to tell the truth.  A REAL man is an honest one.  Women can respect the truth much more than the comfort of a lie. Oh, and FYI, when a woman confronts you regarding a particular situation or instance, there’s a 99% chance she already knows the truth.  She just wants to see if your man enough to tell it.
2. Unfaithful. There’s really no need to go into detail here.  If your man is constantly cheating on you then baby, he’s not worth sh**.  There’s nothing more humiliating than being loyal to someone who’s making a fool of you.  Again, I understand that people make mistakes and there’s nothing wrong with giving a (deserving) cheating partner a second chance; however, if he keeps being unfaithful then that’s because he’s CHOOSING to and why wouldn’t he if you’re only going to cry for a day or two then run back to him.
3. Deadbeat papi.  Hmm hmm.  A man who is physically capable of taking care of his offspring and chooses not to is about as worse as they come.  This “man” is incapable of truly loving you because he can’t even love or support what he helped create.  He’s unfamiliar with sacrificing in order for the needs of others to be met before his own.  He’s selfish and insensitive.  It doesn’t matter what he does for you, the fact that he doesn’t take care of his child(ren) should be enough for you to realize that he’s NO GOOD.
4. Moocher.  A mooch is a freeloader.  They’re beggars.  They’re also the people who take from you without asking.  Let me explain.  Your man is a mooch if he’s constantly asking you for money, ESPECIALLY if he doesn’t even have the decency to pay you back.  He’ll drive your car until the light comes on even though he passed at least four gas stations on the way back home.  He depends on you for EVERYTHING…food, shelter, and clothing.  If you weren’t around he would be completely LOST and HELPLESS.  Ladies, it’s one thing to help your man but it’s another for him to take advantage of your financial well-being.
5. Inconsistent.  Women value stability, whether it’s emotional, physical, or financial.  We don’t cope well with a man showing public affection on Monday, but not on Wednesday or him pulling his weight around the house only when he feels like he wants to.  An inconsistent man is an immature one. No one wants to waste their time on a childish “grown man.”  If he’s inconsistent then he doesn’t deserve you or your time and attention.
6. Abusive.  A real man doesn’t belittle or put his hands on someone he claims to love, plain and simple.  Abuse comes in various forms.  It can range from verbal to physical, emotional to psychological.  Despite its method of appearance, any man who tears you down in order to bring himself up shouldn’t be worth a moment of your infatuation.

Everything that makes up a man who isn’t worth sh** couldn’t be confined to six things.  There are definitely other things that make up a “man” of such caliber, but I believe the preceding gives us a good implication.  Ladies, don’t continue wasting your time on a “man” who is merely no good.  You know he’s not worth it.  Your mama knows it, he knows it, shoot, the whole world knows it!  Wasting your time on the WRONG man will cause you to miss out on the RIGHT one.